The erm........masturbation thread... - Page 17

Squinky · 11-30-2006, 01:46 PM

Hey, I'm no girly girl either. It's just that generally speaking, men seem to be socialised to not share their emotions or talk about personal stuff as much as women do. And since close friendships (by my standards, anyway) happen through mutual self-disclosure... well, you get the picture.

Oh look, it seems like I'm going very much off-topic in an attempt to gratify my own personal desires to talk about gender issues. How very masturbatory of me.

Lee in Limbo · 11-30-2006, 07:30 PM

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Oh look, it seems like I'm going very much off-topic in an attempt to gratify my own personal desires to talk about gender issues. How very masturbatory of me.

Well, I can't speak for the rest of the room, but I personally will treasure the experience for the rest of my days. Glad I could help.

Squinky · 11-30-2006, 08:25 PM

Now that just sounds wrong...

Lee in Limbo · 12-01-2006, 12:36 AM

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Now that just sounds wrong...

So... it wasn't good for you?

Squinky · 12-01-2006, 09:12 AM

Of course it was good for me. But that's not the point. Unless I wasn't engaging in intellectual masturbation at all, but intellectual intercourse...

...wait, what are we even talking about?

Jeysie · 12-01-2006, 10:52 AM

I'm somehow reminded of the Brothel For Slaking Intellectual Lusts from Planescape: Torment, now.

Anyhoo. I do agree that men are somewhat less forthcoming with their feeling and personal issues than women... but, I've still had plenty of close male friends who were willing to engage in "mutual self-disclosure".

Admittedly, though, this is because I tend to end up being friends with "moderate" guys, for lack of a better term. I don't tend to hang out with overly "macho" men, either.

Peace & Luv, Liz

Trumgottist · 12-01-2006, 11:39 AM

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Sadly, it seems as though not many people agree with me on these fronts. Hence, I'm a freak.

In that case, I'm even more a freak. To me, the fact that I'm not married is related to the fact that I'm not having sex.

Squinky · 12-01-2006, 11:44 AM

Same here, actually.

Jeysie · 12-01-2006, 11:54 AM

Heh. Eh, I dunno... I personally find the thought of abstinence until marriage to be impractical.

I mean, think about it... would you rather find out about any potential sexual and living-together incompatibilities before or after you've made the lifelong commitment?

Peace & Luv, Liz

Squinky · 12-01-2006, 01:46 PM

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Heh. Eh, I dunno... I personally find the thought of abstinence until marriage to be impractical.

I mean, think about it... would you rather find out about any potential sexual and living-together incompatibilities before or after you've made the lifelong commitment?

I trust that there are ways to find out such incompatibilities without having to actually try them out firsthand. After all, it worked for my parents, and for several others I know. Also, from what I've heard and observed, living together and/or having sex before marriage doesn't necessarily guarantee marital happiness any more than waiting does.

Of course, the choice to be abstinent until marriage is mine and mine alone, and I would never force anyone to do the same. In other words, live your life however the hell you want to live it, and I'll do the same.

Jeysie · 12-01-2006, 02:43 PM

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I trust that there are ways to find out such incompatibilities without having to actually try them out firsthand.

Not necessarily... I wasn't able to realize how many incompatibilities my roommate/former best friend and I had until we moved in together... and now it seems he's decided that he doesn't like me any more because of those incompatibilities and wants to kick me to the curb.

If this was a guy I'd married, it'd be ten times worse a thing to have happen.

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Also, from what I've heard and observed, living together and/or having sex before marriage doesn't necessarily guarantee marital happiness any more than waiting does.

No, of course not. But a relationship that falls apart after living together first would have fallen apart if you'd married straight away, too. Better to try to wait and see if it falls apart before you make the final commitment, IMHO.

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Of course, the choice to be abstinent until marriage is mine and mine alone, and I would never force anyone to do the same.

Well... your choice that involves anyone who wants to romance you, as well.

Peace & Luv, Liz

Jelena · 12-01-2006, 03:01 PM

My hubby and I lived together a couple of years before having the children. Deciding to have children was a much more important decision than to decide to get married which we did when our youngest was 1 y/o. The reason we got married was that we were tired of living in sin.

Just kidding! We realizd that it's advantageous to be married when there are children in the family. Less paperwork involved.

Sage · 12-01-2006, 06:12 PM

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"living in sin"

That phrase always brings a smile to my face because it makes the situation sound like a lot more fun than it actually is on a day-to-day basis.

Jelena · 12-02-2006, 12:10 AM

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That phrase always brings a smile to my face because it makes the situation sound like a lot more fun than it actually is on a day-to-day basis.

Are you sure you're not a middle aged family father?

omloflump · 12-02-2006, 02:08 AM

I'd say something witty here, but I'm not feeling myself lately.

bulldog · 12-02-2006, 05:59 AM

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I'd say something witty here, but I'm not feeling myself lately.

Why haven’t you been feeling like yourself? Are you sick? Its ok, buck up have a ((((((hug)))))). Everything is always better after a hug

Jatsie · 12-02-2006, 06:09 AM

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Deciding to have children was a much more important decision than to decide to get married which we did when our youngest was 1 y/o.

Oh dear, this doesn't sit well with my Victorian sense of morality.

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The reason we got married was that we were tired of living in sin.

I'm living in sin, namely: Lust, Gluttony, Greed, Laziness & Pride. All I need now is Wrath & Envy and I could complete the seven, but those two aren't really my style.

Jelena · 12-02-2006, 06:35 AM

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Oh dear, this doesn't sit well with my Victorian sense of morality.

First: Yay you're back!

Pft, being faithful is a much more important ingredient in a relationship than being married according to my book. I've been living according to the same "for better, for worse 'til death do us apart" concept ever since we became a couple.
Don't read me wrong here. I did enjoy my wedding, the vows and everyting. It just didn't change our relationship in any other aspect than the legal parts.

Sage · 12-02-2006, 06:41 AM

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Are you sure you're not a middle aged family father?

Joking aside, I almost am.

I'm definitely middle-aged, and BF has a bunch of kids.

bulldog · 12-04-2006, 12:38 PM

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BF has a bunch of kids.

Can you have a small baseball team? teehee

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11-30-2006, 01:46 PM	#321
Squinky Unreliable Narrator Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Le Canada Posts: 9,873	Hey, I'm no girly girl either. It's just that generally speaking, men seem to be socialised to not share their emotions or talk about personal stuff as much as women do. And since close friendships (by my standards, anyway) happen through mutual self-disclosure... well, you get the picture. Oh look, it seems like I'm going very much off-topic in an attempt to gratify my own personal desires to talk about gender issues. How very masturbatory of me. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Squinky is always right, but only for certain values of "always" and "right".

11-30-2006, 08:25 PM	#323
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12-01-2006, 09:12 AM	#325
Squinky Unreliable Narrator Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Le Canada Posts: 9,873	Of course it was good for me. But that's not the point. Unless I wasn't engaging in intellectual masturbation at all, but intellectual intercourse... ...wait, what are we even talking about? Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Squinky is always right, but only for certain values of "always" and "right".

12-01-2006, 10:52 AM	#326
Jeysie Diva of Death Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Western Massachusetts Posts: 1,402	I'm somehow reminded of the Brothel For Slaking Intellectual Lusts from Planescape: Torment, now. Anyhoo. I do agree that men are somewhat less forthcoming with their feeling and personal issues than women... but, I've still had plenty of close male friends who were willing to engage in "mutual self-disclosure". Admittedly, though, this is because I tend to end up being friends with "moderate" guys, for lack of a better term. I don't tend to hang out with overly "macho" men, either. Peace & Luv, Liz Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Adventures in Roleplaying (Nov. 19): "Maybe it's still in the Elemental Plane of Candy." "Is the Elemental Plane of Candy anything like Willy Wonka's factory?" "If it is, would that mean Oompa Loompas are Candy Elementals?" "Actually, I'm thinking more like the Candyland board game. But, I like this idea better." "I like the idea of Oompa Loompa Elementals."

12-01-2006, 11:44 AM	#328
Squinky Unreliable Narrator Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Le Canada Posts: 9,873	Same here, actually. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Squinky is always right, but only for certain values of "always" and "right".

12-01-2006, 11:54 AM	#329
Jeysie Diva of Death Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Western Massachusetts Posts: 1,402	Heh. Eh, I dunno... I personally find the thought of abstinence until marriage to be impractical. I mean, think about it... would you rather find out about any potential sexual and living-together incompatibilities before or after you've made the lifelong commitment? Peace & Luv, Liz Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Adventures in Roleplaying (Nov. 19): "Maybe it's still in the Elemental Plane of Candy." "Is the Elemental Plane of Candy anything like Willy Wonka's factory?" "If it is, would that mean Oompa Loompas are Candy Elementals?" "Actually, I'm thinking more like the Candyland board game. But, I like this idea better." "I like the idea of Oompa Loompa Elementals."

12-01-2006, 03:01 PM	#332
Jelena Lazy Bee Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Sweden Posts: 7,518	My hubby and I lived together a couple of years before having the children. Deciding to have children was a much more important decision than to decide to get married which we did when our youngest was 1 y/o. The reason we got married was that we were tired of living in sin. Just kidding! We realizd that it's advantageous to be married when there are children in the family. Less paperwork involved. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Temporary guest in your life

12-02-2006, 02:08 AM	#335
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