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Speaking as another person who's more or less given up on most of Chit-Chat because it's become a lot of silliness and private conversations...
I don't see what the indignation is about. Yes, silliness, in-jokes, private conversations, and flirtaciousness have their place... and that place is generally in IRC, PMs, e-mail, or IMs. We have a perfectly good IRC channel that could use some love and would be a great place to hang out and chat with your AG friends... That's not to say jokes and silliness are never appropriate... but lots of threads in which a couple people are essentally chatting with each other and the original topic has been lost gets kind of off-putting after a while if you're not in "the group". Peace & Luv, Liz
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11-08-2006, 05:50 PM | #63 |
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This has become tiresome. Why is the tone of the message being dragged out as an issue? Who really cares? I said what I wanted to say the way I wanted to say it, and if there are some mildly abrasive expressions in there, then to put it bluntly, deal with it. I went out of my way to make sure it was respectful of the individuals involved, while still being fairly firm on the problems on a larger scale. If you insist on taking the matter personally, that's your choice. And your misplaced indignation on behalf of other people who feel none themselves suggests you're actually looking for ways to be offended.
Frankly, Impostor, the more you post here, the less it seems you've understood the point at all. All I see is you digging in on a few points you've wrongly decided are black-and-white absolutes and run them into the ground. All we're looking for is balance, and I indentified the areas that have created the imbalance. If you insist on ignoring or twisting the actual message that most other people seem to get quite clearly, then I'm certainly not going to keep repeating it. I will just clarify that this post is not FOR newcomers. It's for the established members of the community who have been most active in their posting, and who shape the dominant tone and direction of this forum. I don't recall saying it was going to remain stickied, so that's just you making more unwarranted assumptions. And I certainly never said anything about this being for the benefit of newcomers. In fact, I specifically stated that the concern is people falling AWAY from Chit Chat because of its current direction - a concern that has been anecdotally supported in this very thread. You've yet to actually highlight a single thing that hasn't already been either pre-emptively or subsequently addressed quite thoroughly. You may not mind being a broken record, but I hate repeating myself pointlessly. |
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As far as I know (and you're willing to correct me on this), there hasn't really been any warning leading up to this. You could have said, "Guys, cut down a bit on the flirting" from time to time, or "Hey, I think we're a bit off-topic" or whatever, but that didn't happen. I flirted and made crude jokes, but I never got any indication that it was frowned upon — no one said anything to me. And if someone told someone else about it, it never reached me. Maybe this is a cumulative response to all those complaints, but it seems to me like it would have been wiser to actively (but good-naturedly) moderate against all the things you thought were going against the community or whatever, and then, if that failed, posting something like this. Quote:
As for the rest of it, I haven't the energy anymore. I feel rather like you're attacking the way I'm arguing rather than the points I'm bringing up, but I'm sure you can vice the versa with me. Whatever. At this point, if I don't simply just flat-out leave, I'm certainly not going to be posting very much — or not post at all for a while. Everything feels compromised. I wouldn't feel comfortable posting the sort of things I usually post — the sorts of things I enjoy posting — simply because clearly, you're trying to discourage them (no matter how partially or lightly you discourage them), so there's not much point in my hanging around — especially not now that I've obviously annoyed the hell out of all the moderators. But hey, that's my problem. I just hope that if I return a few months down the track or something, everything's sorted itself out. I'm not just arguing for the hell of it, by the way. I have tried to offer genuine help, but my idea wasn't taken very seriously. Perhaps it doesn't deserve to be taken seriously, but I still think something along those lines is the right way to go. Speaking of the right way to go... |
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Personally, I didn't notice any significant changes in these quirky parts of the forums since I joined, but that could be just me. Me, who doesn't bother with each and every thread and post coming his way anyway. Even if I did, I could never understand for the life of me how someone could take issues with anything posted in here. It's totally harmless from my experience, not all that derailed, safe for some silly threads that have always been a part of this, and most of all: it's the internet, home of plenty silly things, and all that. I'm sure you know what I mean. Yes, you do.
It took some weeks after I joined for me to start participating in the chit chat section. A totally nonsensical thread, as far as I can remember, which quickly became some kind of chat room in disguise, but hey, it's chit chat, it's the internet, the sky is blue today (not really), the bees are humming (in November!?) .. so yeah. PS: That doesn't mean a place like this wouldn't need some guidelines, personally I just don't see what was really happening, but I'm just a lazy reader/poster, so I guess everything's alright.
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1. Being sorry doesn't mean admitting guilt in the sense of having bad intentions ("I'm sorry I stepped on your toe") 2. It doesn't even imply that the apologizing person has done something inherently wrong. ("I'm sorry I had to be one to tell you that your husband's cheating on you.") 3. Even if you feel like arguing that neither 1. nor 2. apply here, nobody was forced to apologize. In fact, you said yourself that we "clearly" didn't want people to, so if you think the excessive apologies steer the thread in a wrong direction why not take this issue with bulldog (or whoever else did say they're sorry) rather than blame the original Jackal's post? Quote:
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The problem with this situation right here, is that people actually have everything Backwards.
The whole there are too many silly threads / silly activities “problem” is not the cause of there supposedly being no worthwhile / meaningful threads around, in fact it’s a symptom of it. There were threads with topics of discussion, and they were discussed, and the threads were retired. As gradually there was less and less left to be said, people turned to other avenues to satisfy their desires to post and interact with their forum friends, in the form of the so called “silly threads”, and so these threads steadily grew in popularity. If the current activity is so objectionable, people who want change they need to look at the root cause, and actually offer a solution. It is utterly futile to just highlight a symptom, and say “We don’t like what you’re doing so stop and solve it yourselves.” All that will accomplish (if anything) is to just stop people from posting anything at all (which appears already to be taking effect) and send the forum further into insipidity. I like this board, it is populated by nice intelligent people, who I like and respect, and who (for the most part) I would like to think feel the same way about me. I come here for fun and some light-hearted intercourse with people I would consider friends. When I first joined over a year ago it was clear that people knew each other well, and I didn’t always know what they were talking about. I did a lot of reading to start with, and only posted occasionally, and by the time I became a regular poster I felt I knew enough about the people around me that I was part of the group. Not once did anyone make me feel unwelcome. I hardly see this alleged cliquishness as the problem it’s being made out to be, on the contrary. We have plenty of examples of new people who recently have come here and stuck around. This thread disgusts me, with whiny comments like “Well I was in one thread, and a certain person said something, and I didn’t like it.” For heavens sake, if something has affronted you so much that you feel the need to raise the issue in the first place, at least have the guts to directly indicate exactly what you’re talking about, instead of all this pussyfooting around with veiled language, like you’re suddenly afraid to step on someone’s toes, it’s pathetic!
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This argument is now outdated, people are now creating interesting threads and some of the more silly threads are being locked.
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No, this argument was never valid to begin with. And please don't make it sound like some sort of Blitzkrieg. If some threads were locked, that's because they weren't going anywhere, not as a part of some preplanned campaign.
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11-09-2006, 06:12 AM | #70 |
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On an almost completely unrelated issue, you should probably think about changing this threads name, because it might appear to new ppl. that they must read the whole thread to get the guidelines.. Maybe Chit Chat guidelines (long, but please read) and discussion...
I know this has nothing to do with the discussion, and I've chosen, on purpose, not to express my feelings about this.. Mostly because I still haven't made up my mind about this, and because I always feel a bit outside (this is nobody's fault but myself! I'm not blaming anybody..) the community. I think I'm one of the few ppl. who actually enjoyed coming to the chit chat forum everyday after we got all the silly threads, but I also missed some of the more "interesting" (in search for a better word) threads we lost..
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Your post is just fine, Panthera. This thread certainly isn't limited to the same repetitive rants. I may change the thread title when I unsticky it, but I don't really see it as a problem right now. I think it's pretty obvious which parts have value and which don't if anyone feels inclined to read through. But while it's stickied, I want something general enough to draw attention to it.
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As for the Impostor and Jat316sob, bitching because we put the issues to the community itself to foster self-moderation is simply laughable. I really don't care if you wouldn't have done it that way. It's done. Arguing the point is totally redundant, regardless of what anyone thinks of it. And even if it weren't, the fact that no one BUT you seems to take issue with it doesn't make your argument very compelling. But blaming the delivery is just misdirection anyway. No matter how you buffer it with so-called advice for handling this situation better, you've both made it abundantly clear that you're really just lashing out at the decision to moderate in these areas at all. But we are, and for good reason, whether you're unwilling to acknowledge it or not (despite people saying so directly to you). So you have a choice to make. As I said, I'd be shocked to discover anyone is incapable of even the marginal amount of consideration for others we're asking for here. But I guess it's possible. Either way, you've made your positions clear and there's no need to repeat them again. If you actually have something new to say, fine, but not the same things said differently just to drag this out. The situation is what it is, and the rest of us are moving forward. Constructive suggestions towards that end are of course welcome. |
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I hardly think that's a wise comment. Even regardless of the points made, opposing views help strengthen and focus the forum, something which may not happen if every decision was swallowed hook, line and sinker, with no debate. If you think this argument isn't valid (correct me), I find that a very distressing thing for a moderator to think.
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And I told myself I'd stop arguing here. To sum: For a thread addressing a cumulative problem, rather than individual incidents, I think it was handled unfairly — hence the apologies — particular since there seemed to be little indication that the outlined problems were problems — or even issues. And I don't think bitterly referring to "navel-gazing" and "juvenile" humour was a very helpful way of addressing the issue, especially since you insist that this is only a problem on the whole. You took aim at things that I and other people have found "fun" in such a way that anyone would think twice about ever doing it again, as opposed to thinking about doing it in moderation. And don't worry: I still love you, AFGCAAP. And maybe you, too, Jackal. Maybe. |
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Heck, if anything "solves" this "problem", it will be the Ersatz Chatz thread (wink).
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AFGCAPP, huh? Does that mean he's no longer neutral?
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Er, Impostor, you do realize that we, you , others, and I, are just guests here, right? We do not have the right to come here and say whatever we want to say in any way we want to say it in. The people who run this place are granting us the privilege to come here and use the resources. As such, why do you find it so objectionable that the hosts wish to have the guests utilize the resources in a way that benefits the most number of guests? Really, all Jackal has done is that, asking people to be respectful and considerate of other people so that the more people can benefit from the forums instead of the select few.
You keep going on and on about the "incorrect" way that Jackal approached this. Your whole argument is getting very tiresome to tell you the truth. You are not even saying that what Jackal requested is out of the line. You even used someone like Bulldog to make your point. Bulldog didn't have to apologize but she did anyway. Do you know what that makes her? A nice person. Somebody who's willing to think about the consequences of her own actions on other people. Somebody who's willing to change her behavior to benefit others. Even if Jackal hadn't posted the Guideline message and notified Bulldog in the way that you say is acceptable, I bet you million to one that she would have apologized anyway and promised to follow his request. Do you know why? Because she's a nice person. So I suggest you stop using the argument that the fact that Jackal "forced" people to apologize so what he did was acceptable. That's a complete BS. I certainly do not see it that way and I bet Bulldog doesn't either. A lot of people including myself feel that Jackal made a very reasonable request, one that was in sore need. Why don't you move on and become a productive member of the forums? I'd love to see that happen as you seem very intelligent and creative.
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I agree this is tiresome. I didn't want to harp on about this particular aspect, but this is the part of my argument that has been most dwelt upon, and I continue to dwell upon it in response. Just read my first post about this issue. Everything is there. The most important thing is that there has been debate over this issue. That can only help in the long run. In my opinion, if you're going to impose guidelines on things that are only a problem cumulatively, you should be very careful about how you handle it. Quote:
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Jesus Christ. At this point, I've written what could be combined into an enormously tedious and repetitive essay, and I hope I resist the urge to breathe another word about it (no doubt every one of you are hoping that too). So: if you really want to prevent any more of this crap, don't respond! |
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Behold, the really, really long post thread!
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I think you're all making too big a deal out of these guidelines. Jackal didn't post them as some sort of ultimatum written in blood that we're all gonna pay if we don't shape up. The mods are simply asking for us to stop and think before we post. The tone of the post was not in any way condescending or requiring of an apology. The fact that people did means nothing, if they so decided to apologize when they thought about their posts in light of these new guidelines. The apologies were unnecessary. Perhaps Jackal could have eased it up if he hadn't said that the guidelines came about as a result of how the chit-chat forum was progressing recently (thereby making everyone consider how they might have contributed), but it was probably necessary to do so simply to make us consider how we post and consider how people might view said posting habits. It's really not worth all this fuss, especially considering that the forum's probably not going to change too drastically if but gradually.
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