11-08-2006, 04:55 AM | #41 |
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Well that alone wasn't very constructive, it was merely complimenting the other points I submitted
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Like there would be anyone there speaking when I log in... And then there's the case of an IRC not working...
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But here's the thing (and why no one should take this personally): if it was just ONE person doing it, there wouldn't be a problem. But when a whole page of Chit Chat threads is littered with similar threads because many are doing the same thing at the same time, and the other threads are internally filled with the same conversations by the same people, then the forum becomes unbalanced and then there's a problem. And the issues listed should not be isolated, either. (I only separated them for convenience.) Not a single one is an insurmountable problem in and of itself. But when combined, the forum quickly bogs down and collapses in on itself. We don't want people to afraid to post, for fear of breaking some dogmatic "rules". Again, that's not what these are. We just want people to be aware of the bigger picture. |
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We just don't like you, UP
Nah, in all seriousness, it only really starts to get "busy" around 8pm GMT (where busy is just more than myself and AGA (and Hajo)), and even when I'm there during the morning/afternoon, I'm not paying much attention to it.
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11-08-2006, 07:58 AM | #45 |
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I happen to like weeds. You want to plant flowers, that's great, but do you really have to pick the weeds while you do it?
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And, though you may not feel bad about it, you acknowledged it as if it were a bad thing; as if the problem with the forum was that people weren't taking it seriously enough, and were just relaxing and goofing around. No one should feel like that. Last edited by The Impostor; 11-08-2006 at 12:37 PM. Reason: Additions |
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Of course we can continue being silly. But do we need to be silly all over? I don't. On a side not: I saw Warren Zevon perform in a small bar called The Tide on Long Beach Island N.J in 1986 or -87. Ah, those memories!
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But you relly need to stop calling me that. I'll be forced to create a horrible name for you should you continue....... oops, wrong thread.
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11-08-2006, 02:47 PM | #53 |
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Drat, and here was me feeling stubbornly defiant pride!
As I've said before, I understand exactly what you're saying and what you're trying to do; I just don't appreciate the way you went about it. Perhaps I was in the extreme minority, but when you label people talking about their lives outside of the Community Blog "navel-gazing", and titillating jokes "juvenile" (isn't this the internet?), you're not exactly asking for impartial diplomacy. If you say you weren't meant to be accusative, you could have fooled me. Though I run the risk of further sounding like a record broken, I don't think there would have been any apologising at all if there wasn't a problem with your tone. Quote:
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If this forum got too heavy on the meaningful discussion, I can imagine many new users being intimidated. Again, this is down to that 'magic balance' you're trying to achieve, but if you push too hard, it may just come at the sake of the amiably open and free-spirited atmosphere of old; the one that seemed to suit the name "Chit Chat". *I'm aware this is a wild exaggeration. |
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By the way: Moderators, can I suggest making a sticky "New-To-Chit-Chat" thread or something which encourages new users to post feedback or any queries they have about this forum? You could even be blunt and say something like, "If this thread starts to feel alienating or insular, tell us here — it's the only way we'll learn, and we all appreciate your feedback!". Something for them to simply introduce themselves, too. You can't argue with the horse's mouth, after all. It may be a bit tricky getting the right tone across (i.e. not sounding patronising), but I think it would be very helpful having a welcoming thread for new users.
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11-08-2006, 04:17 PM | #56 |
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The thing is, some people have been really bad about derailing threads (they were even light hearted subjects). Even when others tried to bring the thread back to the subject at hand, the derailing continued which I felt was incredibly rude. Even directly asking them to stop in some instances did not have the desired result as they felt they had the right to do whatever they wanted as it was Chit Chat after all. So I agree with Jackal in that a few asides are fine but when it's blatant and those posters have complete disregard for what other people are trying to discuss, then it's very rude and they should be more cognizant of other people's feelings.
Just because a certain type of thread is getting started a lot does not equal approval of those type of threads by everyone else. Certain voices were just starting to drown out everyone elses and you've seen other people say they just thought about leaving instead of saying something. But like I said, some quiet protests were made and dismissed hence the need for the guidelines. I, like FGM, could see where Jackal was coming from. To be honest, Impostor, you hadn't been here for that long since you were last posting so you hadn't seen the slow deterioration of things like I had. I had thought about PMing a moderator but never did. I guess I would have felt like a tattler but I should have just said something. I'm sure the above could have been said better, but it will have to stand. |
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Impostor: so you perhaps even agree with the gist of what was said, but feel offended by the tone. We got that the first time. And make no mistake - it's certainly as valuable opinion as any, but I feel that for the rest of your post you keep forgetting that it's your impression, rather than some kind of objective truth, that the tone of the message was aggressive or patronizing or accusative or what have you. Despite the fact that the majority of people who felt like posting here, thought the contrary.
So, yes, theoretically, there is a risk of getting from one extreme to another. But if on one hand Jackal several times openly asserted it's not the desired effect by us, and on the other hand very few forumites so far shared your criticism about the way that was chosen to deal with the problem, then who exactly is going to make such possibility a reality?
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Though I'm in the minority for virtually wanting to leave after reading the guidelines, one discouraged voice is one too many, no matter who it is, especially since the aim of these guidelines is to expand the community. You can't please everybody, sure, and you may say the fault is all mine, but that's how I felt upon reading it. And I'm not that irrational. |
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I can't tell if you are kidding, but anyway: I'm not sure I see the practicality. There is a sticky thread in Hints and Tips with a big fat "READ THIS" in the title, which most users seem to ignore. I think it's safe to say a Chit Chat one would end up the same way. And everyone is always encouraged to post/PM any forum-related feedback or queries they might have. Perhaps we could add a line like this to the Forum FAQ, if something to that effect is not already there.
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