[100ja a.k.a. mr_mitja]

I don't really flirt, just wear my SPICE GIRLS fan t-shirt when I'm going out. It's better than pheromones

On a more serious note, I do wear that t-shirt, and have a few more that make me "stand out" of the crowd a bit. Than, when a girl notices her you can do almost everything just by looking at each other... (of course if my rough appearance doesn't scare her away . And when she actually sees me in my hairy self, she's got nowhere to run ).

[Wormsie]

Originally Posted by pinkgothic

Edit: Oh, and, I'm going to be gone for a month now. Cheers people. *glomps Trep and wormsie* I'm availible via eMail if anyone wants to harrass me, or via BoyToy. *G*

Awww! *huggie* A month is a terribly long time...

Man, I should change my nick to Wormsie permanently. Deadworm was semi-randomly picked from Grim Fandango, and out of depression and feeling of self-mockery... Hmmm. Is it possible to change your nick?

Actually, better not. If I change it to Wormsie, people will shorten it to Worm, and that's not at all as cute and cuddly as Wormsie. Even Jake called me Wormsie, though I think it was an accident...

[mag]

Originally Posted by EasilyConfused

This is REALLY interesting LauraMac because I once had a (male, married) FRENCH friend explain to me that this is the attitude of the French toward flirting.

Funny, I thought the French attitude toward flirting was to try and make the other person feel inferior...then surrender.

mag

[EasilyConfused]

Originally Posted by mag

Funny, I thought the French attitude toward flirting was to try and make the other person feel inferior...then surrender.

I would love to respond to this mag but any answer I could make would only earn me a bunch of

s

from the French members of our community.

[mag]

Originally Posted by EasilyConfused

I would love to respond to this mag but any answer I could make would only earn me a bunch of

s

from the French members of our community.

Don't worry. I'm sure Ninth will pan me enough for both of us.

mag

[LauraMac]

Well I think you are just being silly, The french flirt wonderfully well.

"Come on Ninth, let's go to that cafe, sip sweet drinks very slowly and whisper secrets"

[Royal Fool]

I don't have any experience with girls at all, they never show me interest (Then again, I'm not exactly the most social type around). Not that it matters, all the girls are always taken. And I'm not lacking in the bumbling/shy department, either.

[Swordmaster]

Originally Posted by Intrepid Homoludens

Flirting, I believe, is in a sense the art of just being your own charming self.

Very true, and as also stated here it's more interesting to have a continuing 'flirt relationship' with someone than to just jump into his/her bed (former in my case) and end it all, even if it is a satisfying end.

I really like flirting, should I find myself in such a situation, because it gives an ego boost - 'Hey, someone's interested in me'. Now, that probably sounds feeble and uninspired but I'm actually very shy to engage eye contact in bars and clubs (which after all are the places where most flirting happens - or have I missed something? :eek: ).

(Hmm, my English isn't really flowing tonight, so what I said above sounds silly but I hope the message gets through...)

[Wormsie]

Originally Posted by Swordmaster

I really like flirting, should I find myself in such a situation, because it gives an ego boost - 'Hey, someone's interested in me'. Now, that probably sounds feeble and uninspired but I'm actually very shy to engage eye contact in bars and clubs (which after all are the places where most flirting happens - or have I missed something? :eek: ).

I flirt with people during lectures, but I have a feeling it's entirely one-sided. That kind of strange behaviour is just typical of me.

[Swordmaster]

Originally Posted by deadworm222

I flirt with people during lectures, but I have a feeling it's entirely one-sided. That kind of strange behaviour is just typical of me.

I just stare at the gorgeous bois in the lectures and if they happen to look my way immediately avert my eyes...

[Wormsie]

Originally Posted by Swordmaster

I just stare at the gorgeous bois in the lectures and if they happen to look my way immediately avert my eyes...

That's what I meant. But sometimes... they look back at you after a while, and then you can look at them again, and then it's their turn to look away...

And so it continues, and before you know it the lecture has ended and it's just the two of you in the classroom and...

Wait, that last part is totally of my own imagination. Yeah, it doesn't work.

[Wormsie]

But my previous posts should explain why I don't learn anything at lectures. Laskuharjoitukset aren't that bad, though some real cuties attend those, too. Mmm....

[Intrepid Homoludens]

Originally Posted by Swordsie

Very true, and as also stated here it's more interesting to have a continuing 'flirt relationship' with someone than to just jump into his/her bed (former in my case) and end it all, even if it is a satisfying end.

Mmmmm, tell me about it. .........Seriously..... < leans closer to Swords > ....tell me....about it.

I really like flirting, should I find myself in such a situation, because it gives an ego boost - 'Hey, someone's interested in me'. Now, that probably sounds feeble and uninspired but I'm actually very shy to engage eye contact in bars and clubs (which after all are the places where most flirting happens - or have I missed something? :eek: ).

Historically I've never been the one to strike up a conversation, and that's because I'm horribly shy myself. I practically never go to parties anymore (I'm a hermit these days), but if I'm at one I just sit in the corner with my drink and look at people. At bars I stare at the liquor bottles and talk to the bartenders, anything than having to catch someone' eyes.

But those moments are exactly when people will come up to me and try to engage me, and I have no choice but to be friendly (I can't very well just tell 'em to fvck off, can I?). Soon after I naturally get interested in them as people (not necessarily as a one night stand or other), I relax, and then......I flirt.

(Hmm, my English isn't really flowing tonight, so what I said above sounds silly but I hope the message gets through...)

< raise single eyebrow at Swordsie and smiles suggestively > What's wrong, Swordsman? Cat got your tongue? Hmmm, lucky bastard, that cat. But then he'd never be able to do what I'd like to do with it.

I flirt with people during lectures, but I have a feeling it's entirely one-sided.

That sounds like something Woody Allen would say!

[Wormsie]

Originally Posted by Intrepid Homoludens

Historically I've never been the one to strike up a conversation, and that's because I'm horribly shy myself. I practically never go to parties anymore (I'm a hermit these days), but if I'm at one I just sit in the corner with my drink and look at people. At bars I stare at the liquor bottles and talk to the bartenders, anything than having to catch someone' eyes.

That sounds like something I would do!

I can't very well just tell 'em to fvck off, can I?

I think my subconscious triggers that kind of a reaction in me. Probably has something to do with my traumatic teenage years. Damn, I wish I just knew how to have some fun... for a change.

That sounds like something Woody Allen would say!

What! WHAT! What do you mean?!?! Ohmygodohmygod, panic attack, panic attack.... *wormsie hyperventilates and collapses on the floor, twitching*

[Swordmaster]

Originally Posted by Intrepid Homoludens

Mmmmm, tell me about it. .........Seriously..... < leans closer to Swords > ....tell me....about it.

Oh Trep, you're always such a tease... But a very... sensuous... tease...

Originally Posted by It's the 'pid again

< raise single eyebrow at Swordsie and smiles suggestively > What's wrong, Swordsman? Cat got your tongue? Hmmm, lucky bastard, that cat. But then he'd never be able to do what I'd like to do with it.

:eek:

[Intrepid Homoludens]

Originally Posted by Swordstud

:eek:

As for me, I flirt too much. The problem with this is that it happens subconsciously, so I've no idea what exactly I do to flirt. So, I can't really contribute much to this thread.

"Too much of a good thing is wonderful." - Mae West

But I can say this: Trep, that story you spoke of where the guy went on apologizing - I envy you bunches for such an encounter. Lovely.

After he left I felt so guilty , but immediately after that I was laughing inside. I'm so eeeeebil.

Edit: Oh, and, I'm going to be gone for a month now. Cheers people. *glomps Trep and wormsie* I'm availible via eMail if anyone wants to harrass me, or via BoyToy. *G*

Enjoy yourself, you hot little flirt.

[Manhunter71]

As I said before - flirting's fine - I have no problems with that. All my best friends are girls and I always feel more comfortable around them.
The main problem I have is taking it to the next level - I never seem to be able to read the signals correctly. If I'm getting on well with someone and they're laughing at my comments I usually end up making a quick exit because I've got the wrong idea.
The girls I really like only want to be "friends"
The girls I'm not bothered about are the ones that are usually interested (go figure... )

[Ninth]

Originally Posted by EasilyConfused

I would love to respond to this mag but any answer I could make would only earn me a bunch of

s

from the French members of our community.

Tsk tsk tsk, I certainly wouldn't pan such a deliciously easily confused young lady...

But...


mag

[Ninth]

Originally Posted by LauraMac

Well I think you are just being silly, The french flirt wonderfully well.

"Come on Ninth, let's go to that cafe, sip sweet drinks very slowly and whisper secrets"

Ah, nothing like flirting in cafes... soft lights, soft music, cocktails, and complicity. That's the real thing.

[EasilyConfused]

Originally Posted by Ninth

Tsk tsk tsk, I certainly wouldn't pan such a deliciously easily confused young lady...

Thank you, Ninth. Now there are some French flirting skills at work, my friends.

LauraMac, I think the French are consummate flirts. The problem is that my somewhat less flirtatious nature found it a bit overwhelming. To be flirted with while asking for ketchup from the teller at McDonald's seemed unecessary . . . multiply that by almost every interaction you have, and by the end of the day, someone like me wants to go hide! :eek:

(Someone like Trep is in heaven. )