[Dasilva]

Originally Posted by Intrepid Homoludens

Two words: Loosen. Up.

And use loob if needed.

[Intrepid Homoludens]

more like 'noob'.

[Dasilva]

Originally Posted by Intrepid Homoludens

more like 'noob'.

Or nob?

[nikoniko]

Originally Posted by Dasilva

And use loob if needed.

I know where to buy KentuckY Jelly if anybody needs it.

[Melanie68]

In 1978 (I was 10), we were visiting my aunt and uncle in Rochester, MN. It rained and rained and rained and flooded. Luckily my aunt and uncle owned another house in town where it was drier and we stayed there. My dad couldn't come with us but he came up to help with the flood aftermath. He went to a store and asked a young clerk where the WD40 was. The clerk asked - what's WD40? My dad said it was a lubricant and the clerk sheepishly said my dad should try the pharmacy*.










* I didn't hear this story until I was in my late 20's.

[Dasilva]

WD40? Thats the name of the droid in SQ5, funnyness.

[Intrepid Homoludens]

LOL! Good one, Melsie

[Dasilva]

Heres a question for you all, how would you describe the perfect way to you to have sex?

[jjacob]

Way? As in what kind of sex (positions etc.) or location/circumstances? I'm confused

[Dasilva]

All of the above.

[Sage]

Originally Posted by Dasilva

Heres a question for you all, how would you describe the perfect way to you to have sex?

Ideally, with another person. Ba-dump chish!

Seriously though, it depends on the person, the situation, and my mood at the time.
Fooling around in a parked car like a horny teenager can be a satisfying challenge to a couple's creativity and flexibility, plus there's the extra dangerous thrill of possibly getting caught.
Fooling around in the great outdoors, be it beach, forest, desert, or mountains is a very liberating experience, especially for a tree-hugging hippie like myself.
Then again, there's a lot to be said for the simple comfort of a nice hotel room.
If you're asking about specific acts, that depends on what my partner wants. I never outright ask, as that's a bit of a mood-breaker for a lot of people. I keep trying different things, and I let my partner's body language be my guide to what turns them on.
Speaking metaphorically, if I put on the cowboy hat for someone without them having to ask me to, then they usually have no problem putting on the grass skirt for me afterwards, although sometimes I have to try on a whole bunch of hats before I discover the cowboy one is the one they like.

[seebaruk]

Yeah, I agree with Scott. It definitely depends on the situation. My favourite kind is spontaneous sex though, like last Friday when me and my gf snuck into an empty office at my work party

[RLacey]

Originally Posted by Intrepid Homoludens

Two words: Loosen. Up.

You know what? Sod it. You misinterpret me initially, refuse to accept my explanation and then decide that patronising me is the better response. I'm perfectly happy for people to discuss anything they want on this thread, I was merely commenting that the tone had been lowered and as a joke.

So, to you, another two words: Grow. Up.

[Spiwak]

Originally Posted by rlacey

So, to you, another two words: Grow. Up.

This is neither the time nor the place for erectile innuendos, rlacey!

Well....maybe it is.

[seebaruk]

Originally Posted by Spiwak

This is neither the time nor the place for erectile innuendos, rlacey!

Well....maybe it is.

It's ALWAYS the time and the place for erectile innuendos.

I'm trying to read through a manual but it's quite long and hard

(to understand)

[Fairygdmther]

Returning to DaSilva's question - the best way is when you have the time to explore each other and find the sweet spots for each other (and the not-so-sweet spots). These are often not the usual ones we think of. What you want are the places and things to do that make your partner melt into a puddle on the floor, and for she/he to do the same for you.

Sure a quickie can be fun, but I prefer the times when the two of you can't get enough of each other, and play continues for hours.

Lynsie

[playing_games]

Originally Posted by doroposo

It depends. It's one of those things where some people distinguish between them and others don't. Stores where we live often keep them separate, but others mix them together. Some of the women I've met who read the yaoi-style women's manga prefer to say that it's not really yaoi, because they think it seems a bit less respectable than what they're reading. I think this is because the men's stories are thought to be less sophisticated and mature than the women's, which seems to bear out if the handful I've read are at all representative. Both styles are pretty interesting, though, as the relationships seem more human than what you get in the "straight" manga.

Actually, this is precisely why I read yaoi or non-yaoi milder gay romance mangas written by women. Much more romantic than your run of the mill shojo mangas written by men.

Originally Posted by doroposo

It's especially uncomfortable when another American soldier gets in the news for doing something reprehensible. Being one of very few Americans where we live, all eyes are on me for the next few weeks. I can't wait to get back, though. I've been stranded in the US on a business mission for my father-in-law, and it seems to be never-ending. I was originally supposed to be home weeks ago, but there's been a lot more to do than either of us anticipated. I miss my wife and my little bean.

I know what you mean. A few years ago, a couple of middle school girls were killed by American soldiers. They were walking by the side of the road and apparently, the American soldiers driving a military vehicle did not see them and ran over them. There was a big uproar over the incident in Korea. The view of America in Korea has been very negative for years anyway and the incident fueled it greatly. The incident was really an accident but some Koreans used it as a reason to hate America even more.

Originally Posted by doroposo

By the way, returning this back to topic... If you don't mind me asking, when you were talking about your last two relationships where both women told you they prefer back rubs to sex, were your girlfriends Japanese? I'm extremely curious about this because I've never heard that idea expressed by or about a Japanese woman before. If anything, Japanese women seem to defy many of the sexual stereotypes of women that I grew up hearing in the United States. Many of them appear to be blissfully unaware that they're supposed to enjoy sex less than men do, desire it less often, or enjoy cuddling more. Of course, I'm sure that women in the United States enjoy sex as much as anyone does, but in Japan women don't seem to grow up with the idea drummed into their head that sex is less for them than it is for men. For instance, it's not unusual for Japanese men to stimulate their lovers with vibrators to help them reach orgasm, while many American men would find the idea denigrating to the power of their own manhood. Japanese women often keep a vibrator or two with them, in order to be ready for an electric moment with a lover or to enjoy themselves when alone. Not all women like vibrators, of course, but that they're so ubiquitous makes me feel that the Japanese are willing to go to whatever end to seek pleasure for both partners.

Actually, my last two girl friends were a Caucasian (born and raised in America) and a Korean. It's interesting what you said about Japanese women and their open attitude regarding sexuality. Korean women are a lot more reserved about sex. My ex went as far as being apologetic about having an orgasm. I tried forever to try to get her to open up a bit more and let me know what kinds of things she liked but she never once did so. For the most part, I was flying blind and had to rely on trial and error to discover things she liked. I think a lot of Korean women are like that even though my ex was a bit extreme. I actaully find thia a bit frustrating. Hmmm, maybe I should look for a Japanse GF next time.

[Dasilva]

Originally Posted by RLacey

So, to you, another two words: Grow. Up.

Why? His already big enough.

[jjacob]

Originally Posted by seebaruk

Yeah, I agree with Scott. It definitely depends on the situation. My favourite kind is spontaneous sex though, like last Friday when me and my gf snuck into an empty office at my work party

Seconded, especially if there's a risk of being caught Like on our school holiday to Rome a couple of years ago, we were staying in a monastery, and me and my ex-girlfriend were exploring the building, and ended up having sex in the janitor/doorman's office, and on the rooftop the next night

[Intrepid Homoludens]

I'd better not share my own experiences of 'spontaneous combustion'. Most of it may get edited by mods.