Thank you, Dad. You are my hero.

Intrepid Homoludens · 03-30-2006, 01:42 AM

Well, I guess I should just finally out it. As you can tell with my av-in-mourning and my sig, my Dad died, on Saturday the 18th of March at the age of 88, after a long struggle with his failing health and old age.

The last time I saw him before he died I was visiting him in the ICU at hospital. He was so tiny, grey, and frail and wasting away, but he could still recognize me and I held his hand and gently stroked his head and gazed into his moist eyes. And when it was time for us to leave I leaned over him and said, "I love you." Those were the very last words he heard from me. I'm so glad I moved down here to California, it's as if it was meant to happen. It's amazing, the power 3 simple words strung together can possess and radiate.

Though I was always closer to Nanay, I had always been in awe of Dad as a simple man who devoted his entire life to his wife and us kids and, eventually, his grandkids. He was kind, understanding, passionate, and bottomless in his generosity. He also had a damn wicked sense of humour, which many of us kids and grandkids inherited (you may have noticed some of it in me).

So his passing was for us a great moment of sadness, but we know his legacy lives on - in our smiles, our laughter, our realizing our dreams. If it weren't for him we may still have been stuck in a pathetically run third world country, perhaps without college/university degrees, and no decent job even if we did have our education. That was his dream, to see that we all have a life that is far better than what he had growing up in the jungles of the Philippines. What more could you ask for in a father than the kind of beauty and love that glows and warms you from the inside out?

To those of you who PMed or posted to give me and my family your condolence, thanks so much again. I told Nanay that you, my sweet online friends, wished her and her family well through our healing.

seebaruk · 03-30-2006, 01:56 AM

He sounds like quite a man, definitely all any kid could want in a father. Already posted in the crying thread but I'll post again here, all the best to you and your family mate.

Jelena · 03-30-2006, 02:07 AM

Thanks for sharing these feelings for and facts about your dad. It amazing to read a true story like this about a person who made dreams come true.
It must be a comfort for you that you have his strenght and motivation inside you./Lena

Jazhara7 · 03-30-2006, 02:11 AM

I offer my condolences Trep. Your Dad really sounds like a wonderful man, and it is always sad when a loved one passes on.

I never know what to post in situations like this, but I also wish all the best to you and your family in this hard time.

I feel no smiley would be appropriate here, so my signature of seven smilies will be blank in respect for the death of your father.

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avatar_58 · 03-30-2006, 03:14 AM

My dad is in the hospital with chest pains.

I don't want to have to be making a thread like this later......my pessimistic side always gets the damn better of me.

Fairygdmther · 03-30-2006, 03:18 AM

Trep, hon, I'm glad you are now ready to talk about it with the forum - you have a great deal of support and respect here, and you need to see the outpouring of love from your friends here. No one can replace your Dad, but you have a heart full of memories to keep you going and no one can take that away from you.

Love M

RLacey · 03-30-2006, 04:52 AM

My condolances, Trep. All the best to you and the rest of your family at this time.

NcroManiac · 03-30-2006, 04:57 AM

My deepest sympathies Trep. The world is certainly a poorer place by loosing yet another hero, but we can rest assured that his legacy will live on trough you and your siblings.

SCRUGAtes13 · 03-30-2006, 09:15 AM

The greatness of one man travels through the seeds he sowes, metaphorically speaking it's not just his sense of humour you have inherited - and although i have never met you - i have full faith that you are the bearer of all the greatness that man you have just described to us once had, and still has; forever in your heart.

SoccerDude28 · 03-30-2006, 10:35 AM

My deepest condolances Trep. Your dad sounds like he was a great person with a big heart. May he rest in peace.

jjacob · 03-30-2006, 11:17 AM

Again my condolences Trepsie, it sounds like your dad was an amazing guy! I know it's so hard to say goodbye and 'I love you' for the last time, but just remember he'll always be with you and Nanay in your heart (and I know this from my own experiences) - death is a part of life - not the end of it.

((((Trep))))

Lucien21 · 03-30-2006, 11:38 AM

Again my condolences.

He sounds like a great guy.

I think you are extremely lucky to have had the chance to say good bye. Your moving to California was pure fate.

Remember him as he was, he will always be with you.

saucyminx · 03-30-2006, 12:11 PM

*hugs Trep*

*stepurhan* · 03-30-2006, 01:59 PM

Those who do good in the world are never truly gone because they live on in the hearts, minds and actions of those who were near them.

My thoughts are with you Trep. Whilst it's sad that you will have no more time together those three little words are pretty good ones to bow out on.

(((((Trep)))))

Ninth · 03-30-2006, 02:21 PM

Condoleances, Trep.

I'm not good enough with words, so I will stop there, but know at least that you have my hearfelt sympathy.

samIamsad · 03-30-2006, 10:38 PM

Trep, man. I've seen it in your sig before, but I didn't know what to say. Three years ago my grandpa died (aged 67). It also was the first time I ever cried over a death of a family member. With the parents of my dad one could see it coming months before. But some weeks before *this* happened he was still as alive and kicking as it gets. It came a bit as a bad surprise. I didn't even realize how much I liked him until I saw that awful casket. I'm with you.

I'm sure your dad had a pretty rich and interesting live. My mother's mother who's still alive was born in 1922. She also was in the army during WWII. I mean, your dad almost lived an entire century! I guess that man had some amazing stories to tell.

Panthera · 03-31-2006, 05:21 AM

I'm so sorry for you.. Hope you'll hang in there.. He sounds like a wonderful man..

Maquisard · 03-31-2006, 08:27 AM

Your dad sounds really cool, the kind of guy I'd like to hang out with. Well, in the next life, I guess. Sorry for your loss.

Erwin_Br · 03-31-2006, 04:17 PM

My sincere condoleances to you and your family, Trep.

(((((Intrepid)))))

--Erwin

Manhunter71 · 03-31-2006, 05:41 PM

Trep,
I echo the feelings of everyone who posted here - the loss of a close relative is never something that you endure easily

But I feel I must add that you have at least had the experience of a loving parent to guide you through your formative years and hopefully someone who has loved and cared for you; and helped you to become the good person you are today

I lost a similar influence 10 years ago (my grandfather) and I think of him every single day.

03-30-2006, 01:42 AM	#1
Intrepid Homoludens merely human Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Chicago Posts: 22,309	Thank you, Dad. You are my hero. Well, I guess I should just finally out it. As you can tell with my av-in-mourning and my sig, my Dad died, on Saturday the 18th of March at the age of 88, after a long struggle with his failing health and old age. The last time I saw him before he died I was visiting him in the ICU at hospital. He was so tiny, grey, and frail and wasting away, but he could still recognize me and I held his hand and gently stroked his head and gazed into his moist eyes. And when it was time for us to leave I leaned over him and said, "I love you." Those were the very last words he heard from me. I'm so glad I moved down here to California, it's as if it was meant to happen. It's amazing, the power 3 simple words strung together can possess and radiate. Though I was always closer to Nanay, I had always been in awe of Dad as a simple man who devoted his entire life to his wife and us kids and, eventually, his grandkids. He was kind, understanding, passionate, and bottomless in his generosity. He also had a damn wicked sense of humour, which many of us kids and grandkids inherited (you may have noticed some of it in me). So his passing was for us a great moment of sadness, but we know his legacy lives on - in our smiles, our laughter, our realizing our dreams. If it weren't for him we may still have been stuck in a pathetically run third world country, perhaps without college/university degrees, and no decent job even if we did have our education. That was his dream, to see that we all have a life that is far better than what he had growing up in the jungles of the Philippines. What more could you ask for in a father than the kind of beauty and love that glows and warms you from the inside out? To those of you who PMed or posted to give me and my family your condolence, thanks so much again. I told Nanay that you, my sweet online friends, wished her and her family well through our healing. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ platform: laptop, iPhone 3Gs \| gaming: x360, PS3, psp, iPhone, wii \| blog: a space alien \| book: the moral landscape: how science can determine human values by sam harris \| games: l.a.noire, portal 2, brink, dragon age 2, heavy rain \| sites: NPR, skeptoid, gaygamer \| music: ray lamontagne, adele, washed out, james blake \| twitter: a_space_alien

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seebaruk Chris Barraclough Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: London Posts: 2,437	He sounds like quite a man, definitely all any kid could want in a father. Already posted in the crying thread but I'll post again here, all the best to you and your family mate. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Games and Tech journo, and broke-arse author of Bat Boy (UK Authors Prize 2010 Winner), Crack (Page Turner Prize 2011 shortlisted) and Dead Dogs (nominated for the Dylan Thomas Sony Reader Award). Check out www.chrisbarraclough.co.uk for promotions and giveaways. Twitter: Seebaruk

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Jelena Lazy Bee Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Sweden Posts: 7,518	Thanks for sharing these feelings for and facts about your dad. It amazing to read a true story like this about a person who made dreams come true. It must be a comfort for you that you have his strenght and motivation inside you./Lena Share Share this post on Twitter

03-30-2006, 02:11 AM	#4
Jazhara7 Ale! And keep 'em coming! Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Beyond the Pattern of Reality...or Germany Posts: 8,527	I offer my condolences Trep. Your Dad really sounds like a wonderful man, and it is always sad when a loved one passes on. I never know what to post in situations like this, but I also wish all the best to you and your family in this hard time. I feel no smiley would be appropriate here, so my signature of seven smilies will be blank in respect for the death of your father. - Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ - "esc(x) cot(x) dx = -csc(x)!" Dennis added, and the wizard's robe caught on fire. "Gosh," Dennis said, "and some people say higher math isn't relevant." >>>Inventor of the Mail order-Assassin<<< And This...is a Black Hole - BYE!

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03-30-2006, 04:52 AM	#7
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NcroManiac Explorer of the uncharted Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Iceland Posts: 670	My deepest sympathies Trep. The world is certainly a poorer place by loosing yet another hero, but we can rest assured that his legacy will live on trough you and your siblings. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ We are all made of stardust, the building block of the stars. And I think the time has come to shine like the suns we are and play online for fun.

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SCRUGAtes13 Party On Dudes Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: West Sussex, England Posts: 1,290	The greatness of one man travels through the seeds he sowes, metaphorically speaking it's not just his sense of humour you have inherited - and although i have never met you - i have full faith that you are the bearer of all the greatness that man you have just described to us once had, and still has; forever in your heart. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ (zombies) ATE MY NEIGHBORS! www.myspace.com/rabhiphop

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SoccerDude28 Homer of Kittens Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: San Francisco, Bay Area Posts: 4,374	My deepest condolances Trep. Your dad sounds like he was a great person with a big heart. May he rest in peace. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ -------------------------------------------------- Games I am playing: Jeanne D'Ark (PSP) Firefox rules

03-30-2006, 11:17 AM	#11
jjacob Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,771	Again my condolences Trepsie, it sounds like your dad was an amazing guy! I know it's so hard to say goodbye and 'I love you' for the last time, but just remember he'll always be with you and Nanay in your heart (and I know this from my own experiences) - death is a part of life - not the end of it. ((((Trep)))) Share Share this post on Twitter

03-30-2006, 11:38 AM	#12
Lucien21 Psychonaut Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 5,114	Again my condolences. He sounds like a great guy. I think you are extremely lucky to have had the chance to say good bye. Your moving to California was pure fate. Remember him as he was, he will always be with you. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ I'm not insane, my mother had me tested!

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stepurhan Freeware Co-ordinator Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: South East England. Posts: 7,309	Those who do good in the world are never truly gone because they live on in the hearts, minds and actions of those who were near them. My thoughts are with you Trep. Whilst it's sad that you will have no more time together those three little words are pretty good ones to bow out on. (((((Trep))))) Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ No Nonsense Nonsonnets #43 Cold Topic A thread most controversial, that’s what I want to start Full of impassioned arguments, of posting from the heart And for this stimulation all will be thankful to me On come on everybody it won’t work if you agree

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03-31-2006, 05:21 AM	#17
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03-30-2006, 10:38 PM	#16
samIamsad capsized. Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 5,534	Trep, man. I've seen it in your sig before, but I didn't know what to say. Three years ago my grandpa died (aged 67). It also was the first time I ever cried over a death of a family member. With the parents of my dad one could see it coming months before. But some weeks before this happened he was still as alive and kicking as it gets. It came a bit as a bad surprise. I didn't even realize how much I liked him until I saw that awful casket. I'm with you. I'm sure your dad had a pretty rich and interesting live. My mother's mother who's still alive was born in 1922. She also was in the army during WWII. I mean, your dad almost lived an entire century! I guess that man had some amazing stories to tell. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Look, Mr. Bubbles...!

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Maquisard Citizen of Bizarro World Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Htrae Posts: 4,219	Your dad sounds really cool, the kind of guy I'd like to hang out with. Well, in the next life, I guess. Sorry for your loss. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ By no rocket’s blue shade am no shells dead down there, Gave no proof all day long that the flag was unwhere! No say does am spar-strangled shroud hang limply! Under land of no free! Am us home coward-leeee! ~Excerpt from the Bizarro Anthem

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03-31-2006, 05:41 PM	#20
Manhunter71 Pink fluffy Xmas bunny Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Lancaster, England Posts: 1,591	Trep, I echo the feelings of everyone who posted here - the loss of a close relative is never something that you endure easily But I feel I must add that you have at least had the experience of a loving parent to guide you through your formative years and hopefully someone who has loved and cared for you; and helped you to become the good person you are today I lost a similar influence 10 years ago (my grandfather) and I think of him every single day. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ We've got to have rules and obey them. After all, we're not savages. We're English! And the English are best at everything!