"You're like a brother to me."

insane_cobra · 01-30-2006, 11:58 AM

What do you do when a person you're in love with tells you that? In your experience, is it a completely lost cause by that point? Sure, "but that's not a lost cause, that's so beautiful, you should be honored etc etc". I understand that and I agree, but that's just not it, is it? I also know that, like so many things, it greatly depends on the circumstances, but I'd just like to hear your general opinion.

And if anyone has a similar experience to share, please do.

SakSquash · 01-30-2006, 12:02 PM

Chicks usually use that line when they know you're digging them and they want you to back off a bit.

Dasilva · 01-30-2006, 12:19 PM

The one I got is:

''I dont want to risk ruining our friendship.''

Thats what I go anyway.

artwking4 · 01-30-2006, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Dasilva

The one I got is:

''I dont want to risk ruining our friendship.''

Thats what I go anyway.

Tell her you have too many female friends as it is, and one more is spreading yourself too thin. She needs to accept the promotion or look to someone else to complain about how guys are such jerks to her.

SakSquash · 01-30-2006, 12:41 PM

Chill Cobra, you're a wicked dude. Forget that skank and find another. It's not as if there's a short supply of hot Croatian ass over there.

Dasilva · 01-30-2006, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by artwking4

Tell her you have too many female friends as it is, and one more is spreading yourself too thin. She needs to accept the promotion or look to someone else to complain about how guys are such jerks to her.

I do have a lot of female friends too, but this person was a guy.

artwking4 · 01-30-2006, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Dasilva

I do have a lot of female friends too, but this person was a guy.

Whoops, I confused you for Insane Cobra, who started the thread!

Sorry.

Dasilva · 01-30-2006, 12:53 PM

No problemo.

Jeysie · 01-30-2006, 12:56 PM

Every single guy I've told I have feelings for him has told me that he "doesn't like me that way" or "I think of you like a sister", so I have lots of similar experiences.

As to how to make someone who says that to you eventually decide they like you after all... no clue, I'm afraid.

Peace & Luv, Liz

Aj_ · 01-30-2006, 12:58 PM

Hey, at least she didn't say sister, that shit can play with your mind.

Two words, french connection UK buddies. I know what you're thinking, four words.

Erwin_Br · 01-30-2006, 01:13 PM

What you could do is try to ignore her for a while. Get some distance. After some time she might realize that her feelings for you are different from what she thought they were. (or not, but at least you then know for sure). She starts missing you, etc...

I believe that spending too much time together in the beginning of a relationship could kill that special feeling of being in love. It's starting to fade away, being together is getting very normal, and before you know it you're just friends. But that's taken from my humble experience, though. Might be a whole different situation for you.

--Erwin

Lucien21 · 01-30-2006, 01:31 PM

Ah the variation of the "Can't we just be friends" speech.

I think it's probably over.

Mind you if you pair have been making out etc and then she says that....then her family is plain weird.

Karmillo · 01-30-2006, 02:22 PM

You should flex your muscles more! even better, try this:
Get a shirt thats 2 sizes too small so when you flex your muscles the shirt rips to shreds, It looks more impressive

She'll be swooning all over you!

*Melanie68* · 01-30-2006, 02:26 PM

Does she know you feel more than just friendship for her? If she doesn't, take a chance and tell her. It may plant a seed.

Aj_ · 01-30-2006, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Melanie68

Does she know you feel more than just friendship for her? If she doesn't, take a chance and tell her. It may plant a seed.

Yes, always wear protection.

*Melanie68* · 01-30-2006, 02:35 PM

So much for feminine advice.

01-30-2006, 02:36 PM

She's just not that into you. But it's a big sea. Don't worry about it.

saucyminx · 01-30-2006, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by temporaryscars

Chicks usually use that line when they know you're digging them and they want you to back off a bit.

Ditto that. My advice? Forget it, move on and look for someone else - a girl who actually and sincerely appreciates you. Life is too short to dwell on one girl.

Dasilva · 01-30-2006, 02:58 PM

I really never understood the concept of picking up a girl/guy just to have sex that night or just to have a one time date. I mean word of mouth from friends that this guy likes you seems a far less obvious/whorish way of telling someone you like them, then again directness can be good. And if you like whores... I really dont know what Im talking about.

artwking4 · 01-30-2006, 03:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dasilva

I really never understood the concept of picking up a girl/guy just to have sex that night or just to have a one time date. I mean word of mouth from friends that this guy likes you seems a far less obvious/whorish way of telling someone you like them, then again directness can be good. And if you like whores... I really dont know what Im talking about.

You're all over the place there, Dr. Strangelove.

01-30-2006, 11:58 AM	#1
insane_cobra gin soaked boy Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Virovitica, Croatia Posts: 4,093	"You're like a brother to me." What do you do when a person you're in love with tells you that? In your experience, is it a completely lost cause by that point? Sure, "but that's not a lost cause, that's so beautiful, you should be honored etc etc". I understand that and I agree, but that's just not it, is it? I also know that, like so many things, it greatly depends on the circumstances, but I'd just like to hear your general opinion. And if anyone has a similar experience to share, please do. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ What you piss in is yours for life.

01-30-2006, 12:02 PM	#2
SakSquash Banned User Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: New Paltz...for now... Posts: 6,177	Chicks usually use that line when they know you're digging them and they want you to back off a bit. Share Share this post on Twitter

01-30-2006, 12:19 PM	#3
Dasilva Hitch-Hiker Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: The Mediterranean Sea Posts: 4,364	The one I got is: ''I dont want to risk ruining our friendship.'' Thats what I go anyway. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Regards, DaSilva "If you don't get out of the box you've been raised in, you won't understand how much bigger the world is." - Angelina Jolie _ <Susan falls through the floor and gets stuck> <Paco looks at her blankly> "Whats wrong with you?! Lassy would of had a firetruck here by now!" - Susan Mayer, Desperate Housewives

01-30-2006, 12:41 PM	#5
SakSquash Banned User Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: New Paltz...for now... Posts: 6,177	Chill Cobra, you're a wicked dude. Forget that skank and find another. It's not as if there's a short supply of hot Croatian ass over there. Share Share this post on Twitter

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Dasilva Hitch-Hiker Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: The Mediterranean Sea Posts: 4,364	No problemo. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Regards, DaSilva "If you don't get out of the box you've been raised in, you won't understand how much bigger the world is." - Angelina Jolie _ <Susan falls through the floor and gets stuck> <Paco looks at her blankly> "Whats wrong with you?! Lassy would of had a firetruck here by now!" - Susan Mayer, Desperate Housewives

01-30-2006, 12:56 PM	#9
Jeysie Diva of Death Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Western Massachusetts Posts: 1,402	Every single guy I've told I have feelings for him has told me that he "doesn't like me that way" or "I think of you like a sister", so I have lots of similar experiences. As to how to make someone who says that to you eventually decide they like you after all... no clue, I'm afraid. Peace & Luv, Liz Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Adventures in Roleplaying (Nov. 19): "Maybe it's still in the Elemental Plane of Candy." "Is the Elemental Plane of Candy anything like Willy Wonka's factory?" "If it is, would that mean Oompa Loompas are Candy Elementals?" "Actually, I'm thinking more like the Candyland board game. But, I like this idea better." "I like the idea of Oompa Loompa Elementals."

01-30-2006, 12:58 PM	#10
Aj_ Beyond Belief Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Blighty Posts: 2,186	Hey, at least she didn't say sister, that shit can play with your mind. Two words, french connection UK buddies. I know what you're thinking, four words. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Richard Dawkins :: AAI 07 :: NOVA ID on Trial :: Skeptic's Guide :: Beyond Belief :: Out Campaign :: NeuroLogica :: Skepticality

01-30-2006, 01:13 PM	#11
Erwin_Br Under pressure. Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Apeldoorn, The Netherlands Posts: 3,773	What you could do is try to ignore her for a while. Get some distance. After some time she might realize that her feelings for you are different from what she thought they were. (or not, but at least you then know for sure). She starts missing you, etc... I believe that spending too much time together in the beginning of a relationship could kill that special feeling of being in love. It's starting to fade away, being together is getting very normal, and before you know it you're just friends. But that's taken from my humble experience, though. Might be a whole different situation for you. --Erwin Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ > Learn more about my forthcoming point & click adventure: Bad Timing! > Or... Visit Adventure Developers: Everything about developing adventure games.

01-30-2006, 01:31 PM	#12
Lucien21 Psychonaut Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 5,114	Ah the variation of the "Can't we just be friends" speech. I think it's probably over. Mind you if you pair have been making out etc and then she says that....then her family is plain weird. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ I'm not insane, my mother had me tested!

01-30-2006, 02:22 PM	#13
Karmillo woof Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: NOT REALLY RIGHT HERE Posts: 4,750	You should flex your muscles more! even better, try this: Get a shirt thats 2 sizes too small so when you flex your muscles the shirt rips to shreds, It looks more impressive She'll be swooning all over you! Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ "I've got nothing to lose! Except for...well everything."

01-30-2006, 02:26 PM	#14
Melanie68 Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 8,907	Does she know you feel more than just friendship for her? If she doesn't, take a chance and tell her. It may plant a seed. Share Share this post on Twitter

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Melanie68 Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 8,907	So much for feminine advice. Share Share this post on Twitter

01-30-2006, 02:36 PM	#17
SamNMax Guest Posts: n/a	She's just not that into you. But it's a big sea. Don't worry about it. Share Share this post on Twitter

01-30-2006, 02:58 PM	#19
Dasilva Hitch-Hiker Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: The Mediterranean Sea Posts: 4,364	I really never understood the concept of picking up a girl/guy just to have sex that night or just to have a one time date. I mean word of mouth from friends that this guy likes you seems a far less obvious/whorish way of telling someone you like them, then again directness can be good. And if you like whores... I really dont know what Im talking about. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Regards, DaSilva "If you don't get out of the box you've been raised in, you won't understand how much bigger the world is." - Angelina Jolie _ <Susan falls through the floor and gets stuck> <Paco looks at her blankly> "Whats wrong with you?! Lassy would of had a firetruck here by now!" - Susan Mayer, Desperate Housewives

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