dating tips? - Page 3

*Melanie68* · 11-18-2005, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by gillyruless

I must be really naive. As some of you know, I love giving and receiving gifts, especially flowers, so I find it a bit surprising that some women might consider getting gifts/flowers creepy. Live and learn I guess. Should I be more discerning and careful in my future endeavors?

As a woman who has rarely, rarely, rarely (like once) received real flowers from a man, I would be THRILLED!!!!!!

***Marek*** · 11-18-2005, 12:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Ninth

That sounds suspiciously like : "I'm too lazy to flowers".
And I should know, I use that all the time.

Well, you can turn that around! It might be lazy to buy flowers. It's not that creative and it says you are there to impress her. I think you should never be on a date to impress or seek approval. You're there to have a good time and to learn more about somebody else. No flowers, no gifts. At least not on a first date.

Admittedly my romantic life is a total wasteland, but I still think I'm right.

It's also a cost-saver

Edit: a single rose bud like Melanie68 says is a good idea though! That's something you can present in a more lighthearted or gentlemanlike way. (especially if it's got a short stem, which for some reason makes a big difference when I think about it)

***fov*** · 11-18-2005, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by gillyruless

I must be really naive. As some of you know, I love giving and receiving gifts, especially flowers, so I find it a bit surprising that some women might consider getting gifts/flowers creepy. Live and learn I guess. Should I be more discerning and careful in my future endeavors?

I'm sure it's just my own insecurity. If someone likes me enough to bring flowers on the first date, there must be something wrong with him.

I should probably add that of the three really serious relationships I've been in, I didn't want to go on the first date with any of them.

In fact, I may have semi-unintentionally gone out of my way to get Geoff not to like me. (Thankfully it didn't work.

)

EDIT: Once I'm in a relationship and there's some kind of understanding of what's going on (or even just a mutual understanding that something is going on), I love flowers or other gifts. I think the reason they turn me off on the first date is because it immediately elevates something that we don't yet know is worth elevating...

Sage · 11-18-2005, 05:48 PM

Okay, flowers or chocolates on a first date- Bad.
How about birthstone earrings on a fourth date?

SakSquash · 11-18-2005, 05:49 PM

How about a big black dildo for Christmas? Keep it up and that's what you'll be getting!

Sage · 11-18-2005, 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by temporaryscars

How about a big black dildo for Christmas? Keep it up and that's what you'll be getting!

A. If I keep it up I wouldn't need a dildo, now would I?
B. Will you demonstrate how to use it?

SakSquash · 11-18-2005, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Thrift Store Scott

B. Will you demonstrate how to use it?

I'll glady slap you across the face with it!

RAR!

Sage · 11-18-2005, 06:20 PM

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Originally Posted by temporaryscars

I'll glady slap you across the face with it!

"RAR!", yourself. Where is all this coming from? Oh wait...
It's because I ignored your earlier post, isn't it?

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Originally Posted by temporaryscars

Wanna go out on a date?

Temp, you're a nice guy under all the bravado and I'm sure a date with you would be anything but dull, but the difference in our ages would be a problem from the get-go. I like you, but not "that way", and I think we're better off staying "just friends". Thank you for asking, though...I'm very flattered.

SakSquash · 11-18-2005, 06:26 PM

Oh no. I'll cry myself to sleep tonight.

Captain Blondebeard · 11-18-2005, 10:47 PM

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Originally Posted by fov

I'm sure it's just my own insecurity. If someone likes me enough to bring flowers on the first date, there must be something wrong with him.

I should probably add that of the three really serious relationships I've been in, I didn't want to go on the first date with any of them.

In fact, I may have semi-unintentionally gone out of my way to get Geoff not to like me. (Thankfully it didn't work.

)

EDIT: Once I'm in a relationship and there's some kind of understanding of what's going on (or even just a mutual understanding that something is going on), I love flowers or other gifts. I think the reason they turn me off on the first date is because it immediately elevates something that we don't yet know is worth elevating...

Sounds like my kind of woman.

Side question. What makes you not want to go out with these guys? Are you not attracted to them? What would make you want to go with someone. I never had a woman try not to date me. I only would date a woman that my confidence worked on.

Tinariwen · 11-19-2005, 01:16 AM

okey here come fresh info of my first date: we ate at the sushi place, it was freaking fun, we laugh all the time, and when we hade eaten so much it is silly, we meet one of her friends and we talked for a wile,but the friend sould go to guthenburg, so we whent on a bar, satt there for like 5 hours talking, then we start to kiss, and that kind of stuff, no details. and the night was perfect.then I went home to her, and that was nice to, hehe
and I came home like 5 in the morning.

Tinariwen · 11-19-2005, 01:17 AM

gifts I gave her: a cd with japanesse rock from the 60ties and a poem. and I payed for the food of course.

***Marek*** · 11-19-2005, 03:17 AM

fov: tsk tsk, you were just testing them out weren't you?

(Sounds like it went well Tinariwen!)

Tinariwen · 11-19-2005, 03:30 AM

yeah,It turned out perfect, we will meet at wednesday too.

Maquisard · 11-19-2005, 03:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Tinariwen

then I went home to her, and that was nice to, hehe

I wonder whether that means...no, it couldn't!

RLacey · 11-19-2005, 04:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Mares

I wonder whether that means...no, it couldn't!

How... proactive.

Tinariwen · 11-19-2005, 04:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Mares

I wonder whether that means...no, it couldn't!

hey, I don't get it, what does you mean?

Wormsie · 11-19-2005, 04:56 AM

Meaning, that you went home with her and then had sex?

Tinariwen · 11-19-2005, 04:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Wormsie

Meaning, that you went home with her and then had sex?

we are both agains sex before marrige!

Sage · 11-19-2005, 07:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Tinariwen

We are both against sex before marriage!

Ah. I respect your choice and your resolve to stick with it, but you're kind of in the minority these days. Most people are against marriage before sex.

11-18-2005, 05:48 PM	#44
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SakSquash Banned User Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: New Paltz...for now... Posts: 6,177	How about a big black dildo for Christmas? Keep it up and that's what you'll be getting! Share Share this post on Twitter

11-18-2005, 06:26 PM	#49
SakSquash Banned User Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: New Paltz...for now... Posts: 6,177	Oh no. I'll cry myself to sleep tonight. Share Share this post on Twitter

11-19-2005, 01:16 AM	#51
Tinariwen !A complete failure! Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Sweden Posts: 106	okey here come fresh info of my first date: we ate at the sushi place, it was freaking fun, we laugh all the time, and when we hade eaten so much it is silly, we meet one of her friends and we talked for a wile,but the friend sould go to guthenburg, so we whent on a bar, satt there for like 5 hours talking, then we start to kiss, and that kind of stuff, no details. and the night was perfect.then I went home to her, and that was nice to, hehe and I came home like 5 in the morning. Share Share this post on Twitter

11-19-2005, 01:17 AM	#52
Tinariwen !A complete failure! Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Sweden Posts: 106	gifts I gave her: a cd with japanesse rock from the 60ties and a poem. and I payed for the food of course. Share Share this post on Twitter

11-19-2005, 03:17 AM	#53
*Marek* Puts the 'e' in Mark Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 3,138	fov: tsk tsk, you were just testing them out weren't you? (Sounds like it went well Tinariwen!) Share Share this post on Twitter

11-19-2005, 03:30 AM	#54
Tinariwen !A complete failure! Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Sweden Posts: 106	yeah,It turned out perfect, we will meet at wednesday too. Share Share this post on Twitter

11-19-2005, 04:56 AM	#58
Wormsie Doctor Watson Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: The Catacombs Posts: 4,736	Meaning, that you went home with her and then had sex? Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Don't worry, I'm a doctor.

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