I completely understood the need for a very public (i.e. televised) memorial the first couple of years. I think collectively, many people were grieving: either the loss of someone or just what happened and the shock that went with it. But with any grieving process, people move on and let go of the sadness. It's always a different process for everyone and everyone has a very different grieving timeline. I feel like this very public reminder of details and oh it's the time when the first plane hit, etc. isn't needed.
We aren't mourning collectively anymore. But I feel we are being forced back into this collective sadness. 'It's 9/11, you are obligated to mourn, feel sad, cry, and feel for families.' I can't find those feelings anymore personally. I've moved on. For those families who are still in the grieving process, they very likely have a lot of support from fellow grievers, counselors, etc. I highly doubt me dredging up feelings I don't have anymore will help them.
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