Love is a social construct, and can be learned. Compatibility and commitment are what hold a relationship, not necessarily love. Arranged marriages tend to have a higher success rate than "love" marriages, because they are more based on the above two than on an arbitrary conception of love. Usually, in such a case, the love grows after the couple gets married, rather than before.
Gee, I wish I could have an arranged marriage. It'd sure save me the trouble of finding a significant other, that's for sure.
Also, I find that love is also unlikely to last if it is pursued for selfish interests, i.e. so that I can be happy, avoid loneliness, etc.
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