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08-29-2005, 08:10 AM | #41 |
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I'm quite happy entering my senior year of college at Saint Olaf in Minnesota. I had a whirlwind summer in Norway singing, working at a camp counselor thirty miles south of Glacier in Montana, and dropping my sister off at college in DePaul. A week and I'll be singing again, which I miss dearly. This year in college I'll finally be living with people I WANT to be living with. Sophomore year I roomed with a good friend from first year who I did not co-exist well with, and last year I was mixed up in Resident Life business. I've been single for about a year now after a long-term relationship ended and am looking forward to growing personally and enjoying the college life in my last year of undergrad. I've also started dreaming about the future plans, which is incredibly exciting. Living in Chicago with a high school friend for a year and then graduate film studies.
I think since the relationship ended I've finally had some time to start creating an inner life. I hope to be a more stable person for me and for others. Taking some time for yourself really DOES help. |
08-29-2005, 08:42 AM | #42 |
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Well, this is an interesting topic for a thread.
I personally am not very happy. I have a lousy job, a non-existent love and social life, and several physical ailments I can't get to clear up. I have no real talents or skills worth mentioning, either. The only thing that keeps me sane is my best friend/roommate, but even there we're starting to have a few fundamental oppositions of opinion on some things. It seems like every other mid-twenty-something I know is either married with a good job, or making good progress on being that way. I feel like I've just been treading water ever since I left school 9 years ago. There's nothing in my life that's *horrible*, I have to admit. We scrounge up enough money to keep the rent paid, the fridge stocked, and the cat fed. None of my physical problems are debilitating. And yet it all feels kind of empty right now, and no signs of changing any time soon. Peace & Luv, Liz |
08-29-2005, 10:14 AM | #43 | |
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08-29-2005, 10:25 AM | #44 |
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I do have a couple hobby groups I hang out with each week, but they're all online. All of my hobbies are geeky, and I live in a mostly geek-free zone where I am. (Plus geeks don't socialize in person all that often anyway. )
I've thought of trying to find a local D&D group to join offline, but I can't afford a car, and trying to get around at night on the bus is nigh impossible. (sigh) Peace & Luv, Liz |
08-29-2005, 10:32 AM | #45 | |
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08-29-2005, 10:39 AM | #46 | |
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Sorry to hear that you are not very happy, but don't worry, there's always sunshine at the end of the tunnel. Do you have anything you would like to be working? I suggest you take classes, maybe at night, and just pursue what you like doing. Like my uncle said, there is no age too old for learning. My co-worker hated his job, so he quit completely and went for a PHD in business (and this is a guy with a PHD in mechanical engineering, and working in the IT industry). As far as your love life, I suggest what Lynsie said. Attend sports club, go to social events, and meet people. Through the people you meet, you get to maybe meet their friends, and then low and behold, you will end up with a boyfriend. There are also some online services you can use to meet guys, although I would be more careful in using those. I know 2 people who actually got married through online services, and even here on these same forums, at least 3 or 4 folks met their significant others online. So yeah, I truly believe that life is just how you look at it. It can be pretty tough, but don't let that get you down. Once you find someone special, you will look back at these days, and say to yourself: "What was I thinking "
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08-29-2005, 10:41 AM | #47 |
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Sounds very familiar indeed. I like FGM's advice, I'm as geeky as you can get but there is a lot of fun you can have outside in the open air, even if you don't like exsertion there is fun to be had.
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08-29-2005, 10:43 AM | #48 |
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FGM: I'm *in* Springfield. So no walking through the Berkshires for me. I did grow up in Pittsfield, and the fact that you can walk everywhere is one of the few things I miss about the place. In Pittsfield you could walk near anywhere in the city in 45 minutes or less. In Springfield you walk for 45 minutes and end up not much of anywhere interesting.
My problem with exercise is that I'm horribly unathletic... I'm completely awful at most sports. Not to mention I usually have little to no physical energy. I do like to swim, but I have no money to join the Y or anything. As for classes, considering that depression is a big factor in why I left school in the first place, I'm not sure it'll result any different now (even if I could afford it...) (shrug) I suppose something will come up sooner or later, I just hope it's sooner! Peace & Luv, Liz |
08-29-2005, 12:48 PM | #49 | |
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BTW - there was an old flick, the Reincarnation of Peter Proud, that takes place in Springfield, Mass. If you haven't seen it, you might want to rent it. Lynsie
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08-29-2005, 12:56 PM | #50 |
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volunteer work sounds like a good suggestion to me - local food bank, anything involving kids, spending time at a retirement center. Something else that might be cool is gardening or cooking if you could get into either of those.
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08-29-2005, 02:32 PM | #51 | ||
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08-29-2005, 03:35 PM | #52 | ||
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Gym class was nothing but constant frustration because I could never do anything right no matter how hard I tried. The ball always sailed through my hands, I always tripped over my feet while running, and I've gotten smacked by balls, bats, rackets, and other various equipment more times than I can think of. I have a horrid spacial sense, especially with regards to moving objects. There's gotta be at least a couple people here who know what I mean. There were very few sports I found fun instead of a complete nightmare... floor hockey and archery, mainly. Quote:
I'm not really interested in returning to school, truth be told... For one, I learn better at my own pace and finding hands-on practical applications, rather than the average high-school/college class with endless lectures and going over the same material ten times. I attended college for a stint several years ago, but got disillusioned (plus I didn't even know what to major in) and left. Ironically, I love to learn! I love finding new info, love doing research, and love figuring out how stuff (usually software) ticks. But most of my classes made learning feel so completely boring. For two, I'd need a job while going to school anyway, so it seems pointless to invest time and money when I won't see a benefit for 6 or more years and I'll be in the same crappy jobs during the interim anyway. Plus my roommate has a college diploma, and he's still had a devil of a time finding a decent job. If I had spare money I might take a programming class or two... but I'll likely just try to teach myself instead. Anyway, this is getting way off-topic, isn't it? Peace & Luv, Liz |
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08-29-2005, 04:51 PM | #53 | |
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08-29-2005, 05:14 PM | #54 | |
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Hey Liz, I understand how you feel - I was a major geek at school - I had a couple of reasonably close friends, but on the whole I really disliked the whole school experience. I eventually dropped out halfway through my A-levels and got a crappy job in a lab. After a few years I decided to try academic life again and eventually got into a Chemistry degree - unfortunately that didn't last because of girlfriend troubles (it didn't help that her father was one of my chem professors ). A few years after that I tried Uni again, but funding problems led to another failure So, I dropped out again and after a failed business venture I finally got a horrible job as an insurance investigator - which brings me to the present day. Although life is shit and I have the crappiest job in the world, there are certain things that make life slightly more enjoyable, such as adventure games and chatting to like-minded people on this forum |
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08-29-2005, 05:28 PM | #55 | ||
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08-29-2005, 05:34 PM | #56 |
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It's nice to know I'm not the only person who has nightmares about volleyball. (shudder) It's also nice to see someone else who finds Chemistry interesting... erm, despite the failed degree.
Anyhoo, maybe we need a new thread about "Things That Make Me Happy". Like one of those positive thinking journals. Peace & Luv, Liz |
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With regard to Chemistry - it's one of my favourite subjects, along with History and Psychology. Another reason for dropping out of uni was also due to the fact that you had to do all your lab work as part of a team (shudder!) I was always a loner so anything involving teamwork gave me a panic attack |
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08-29-2005, 05:55 PM | #58 | |
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I've come to the conclusion that the best people in your life are those that don't allow you to wallow in self pity and don't indulge your self righteous anger. Having someone constantly agree with you doesn't help you learn and try new things and it doesn't challange the status quo you have put yourself in. Also, helping others as a way out of depression is very true! Depression in and of itself is narcissisitic in that the focus is on you and why you are so sad. When you help others it takes that focus off of yourself. I say those things but I don't follow my own advice but I think I am better at recognizing when I am swimming in the cesspool of my own self pity and I try to get out of it ASAP! I want to say too, Intrepid, that I'm glad you are feeling better Last edited by Melanie68; 08-30-2005 at 08:33 AM. |
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10-02-2005, 08:50 PM | #60 |
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Yet another resurrection......
I've been feeling better about things in life. I've decided I don't care about what people expect of me at school. I need to do what's right for me, work at my own pace and enjoy my time as a grad student. What got me in trouble before (and kept me in my previous lab too long) was trying to do what other people expected of me. I've been working out more - walking (except when the shin splints kick in) and going to the gym on campus (they built a new one!). I've been trying to quit smoking - I know, BAD ME!! I'm making some headway. It always seems that when you start working on these things in your life, you start to feel that emptiness. I live alone (except for the dog, 2 cats and the rat) and haven't been in any kind of a relationship for over 2 years (the last one was not good for me). I've been very lonely. Some of that I can take care of by seeing friends but I want to be in another relationship. The AG forums have really helped too. Even though I can't see you all in person (and I would SO love to do that), it is a highlight of my day to be on the forum. I'm gunshy to start another relationship because of the last one. I met him 2 days before I got a call from my Mom (in 2001) saying she and Dad are separating (after 35 years of marriage) and I needed someone in my life. I was basically someone on the side (and I knew it but thought I could handle it at the time). If I had felt better at the time, I would never have gotten involved. I think part of it is I still feel stupid for getting involved in the first place. So right now, I'm happier than I've been but feeling blah and lonely tonight. Thanks for letting me spill some angst. It's always much appreciated. Flowers for everyone at AG. |
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