Dating advice

Wormsie · 07-09-2007, 09:54 AM

What to do if you're getting to now a new person through an online dating service and you find out that the name of someone interesting is the same as the one your ex (who was possibly weird and horrible in the end of the relationship) had?

Because I'm freaking out right now.

Catbert · 07-09-2007, 10:06 AM

You go on and don't care?

Trader · 07-09-2007, 10:11 AM

I understand how you feel, I cant go out with men who have the same name as my father or brothers or even exboyfriends. But maybe you are a strong person than me.

Jatsie · 07-09-2007, 10:13 AM

I assume your worry is that it's the same person?

I suppose it really depends how common the name is. If it's a popular name, then relax, it's probably a different person. If the name is more unusual, ask some select questions, that you already know the answer to with regard to your ex, if the answers don't match then it's unlikely to be the same guy.

If you just want to cut to the chase, ask to trade pictures, it'll elimate all doubt in the click of a button.

Squinky · 07-09-2007, 10:18 AM

Hey, at least if you actually develop a relationship with the guy, you won't accidentally scream out the wrong name.

Wormsie · 07-09-2007, 11:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Jat316sob

I assume your worry is that it's the same person?

I suppose it really depends how common the name is. If it's a popular name, then relax, it's probably a different person. If the name is more unusual, ask some select questions, that you already know the answer to with regard to your ex, if the answers don't match then it's unlikely to be the same guy.

If you just want to cut to the chase, ask to trade pictures, it'll elimate all doubt in the click of a button.

Oh, I know it's not him, don't worry.

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Originally Posted by Squinky

Hey, at least if you actually develop a relationship with the guy, you won't accidentally scream out the wrong name.

Squinky, you're a genius.

Jatsie · 07-09-2007, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Wormsie

Oh, I know it's not him, don't worry.

Oh, well then you're just being neurotic, which is kinda cute.

It's just a name, you'll get over it. That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet, 'n' all.

Hammerite · 07-09-2007, 12:23 PM

you'll probably associate the name with the new guy in time, which would be better for you (unless he's bad too)

Henke · 07-09-2007, 02:12 PM

Your only problem with your date is that he has the same name as your ex? You're in heaven.

Squinky · 07-09-2007, 02:21 PM

Yeah, but does he seem to find the happiness he seeks, when they're out together dancing cheek to cheek?

bulldog · 07-09-2007, 05:53 PM

I agree with Henke, if that is your only problem then it should be smooth sailing.

Catbert · 07-09-2007, 06:35 PM

At least she or he is not thinking about stabbing you with a kitchen knife in the gut because I was seen having coffee with a friend of mine once.

Sage · 07-09-2007, 08:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Jat316sob

It's just a name, you'll get over it. That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet, 'n' all.

Indeed. I should have a nickel for every guy I've dated whose name was either "Mike" or "Randy".

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Originally Posted by Hammerite

you'll probably associate the name with the new guy in time, which would be better for you (unless he's bad too)

Point well taken. Unless you're a big believer in Numerology, names mean very little.

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Originally Posted by Catbert

At least she or he is not thinking about stabbing you with a kitchen knife in the gut because I was seen having coffee with a friend of mine once.

That's not the one you were gonna marry, was it?

Not A Speck Of Cereal · 07-09-2007, 08:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Catbert

At least she or he is not thinking about stabbing you with a kitchen knife in the gut because I was seen having coffee with a friend of mine once.

Subject of another thread, to be sure.

Jatsie · 07-10-2007, 01:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Sage

Indeed. I should have a nickel for every guy I've dated whose name was either "Mike" or "Randy".

Did these Randy guys live up to their name?

Catbert · 07-10-2007, 04:24 AM

and to the rest, NO.

Sage · 07-10-2007, 06:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Jat316sob

Did these Randy guys live up to their name?

A few did, yes.

Wormsie · 07-12-2007, 11:25 AM

I wasn't that serious with my concerns, just wanted to say something funny and generate some idle discussion about online dating and stuff like that

Dating would be going better if he was on MSN more often.

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Catbert DAVE Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Portugal Posts: 1,326	At least she or he is not thinking about stabbing you with a kitchen knife in the gut because I was seen having coffee with a friend of mine once. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ IS THAT DAVE?

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Catbert DAVE Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Portugal Posts: 1,326	and to the rest, NO. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ IS THAT DAVE?

07-12-2007, 11:25 AM	#18
Wormsie Doctor Watson Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: The Catacombs Posts: 4,736	I wasn't that serious with my concerns, just wanted to say something funny and generate some idle discussion about online dating and stuff like that Dating would be going better if he was on MSN more often. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Don't worry, I'm a doctor.

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