The opposite sex?

bulldog · 08-15-2006, 10:22 AM

What qualities do you look for in a partner? What is the first thing that you notice about the opposite sex, their qualities that attracted you in the first place? Is it their eyes, brains, smile…. and so on……

I look at their habits first, mannerisms, the way they carry themselves.

Hammerite · 08-15-2006, 10:26 AM

to be honest, i dont usually look at ass or boobs first, but usually the face is more important, however personality/sense of humour is a must.

good looks + nastiness = sod off

bulldog · 08-15-2006, 10:32 AM

I thought all guys look at tits and ass first thing...... I don’t think that I have ever heard of a guy that looks at the face first..... well I guess you learn something new everyday.

Your right though personality is the key.... bad personality = someone that will waste your time.

Jelena · 08-15-2006, 10:33 AM

It's been about 20 years since I met Christer and I've never looked at another guy since. But if I remember correctly I liked his looks and his sense of humour. He's a real clumsy person but that never bothered me. Then I know I loved his scent. I still do.

Awwww I miss him. He's working another week on Gotland.

bulldog · 08-15-2006, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Jelena

It's been about 20 years since I met Christer and I've never looked at another guy since. But if I remember correctly I liked his looks and his sense of humour. He's a real clumsy person but that never bothered me. Then I know I loved his scent. I still do.

Awwww I miss him. He's working another week on Gotland.

Hopefully he will be home soon. I take one of Matt's (my DH) shirts and sleep in it while he is away. That always helps me.

KriD · 08-15-2006, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Jelena

It's been about 20 years since I met Christer and I've never looked at another guy since.

Now that's impressive. Do you go out with your eyes closed.

Jatsie · 08-15-2006, 11:11 AM

I guess I'm not welcome in this thread then?

*humph!*

Wormsie · 08-15-2006, 11:31 AM

I'm gay, so the opposite sex doesn't really interest me that much. COme to think of it, I don't have many female friends - must be because I'm studying technology.

Lee in Limbo · 08-15-2006, 11:35 AM

Facial expression, body language, a modicum of pride in their appearance, obvious signs of an engaging personality, and an ability to enjoy themselves in my company. I prefer gals with generous curves, but smiles are essential.

bulldog · 08-15-2006, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Jat316sob

I guess I'm not welcome in this thread then?

*humph!*

of course you're welcome, all people this questions is for everyone. this thread is for gay, straight, bi or what ever tickles your fancy

If I lead you or anyone else to believe that you were not welcome I apologize.... I throw myself at your mercy.

*stepurhan* · 08-15-2006, 12:01 PM

I think it's the "opposite" part that's throwing some people off. Tricky to think of a more genarilsed way of saying it that won't sound clumsy though.

I look for a wedding ring that matches my own on a ladies finger.

(Oh and a whole bunch of other features that would restrict that to my wife)

I'd have to say brain overall. I like a woman who can challenge me intellectually. It keeps life interesting if you can have proper discussions. It also helps that we have different specialised areas of knowledge so there always things each of us can show off about.

When I consider lowly physicality nice legs and a good arse are always nice.

Also I've always had a thing for women in glasses for some reason. .

bulldog · 08-15-2006, 12:19 PM

after some thought I am going to change the name to ideal partner. The topic is still what attracts you to "the person you like" meaning if your straight, gay, bi or what ever your cup of tea maybe tell us what you like about the person your with or hope to be with in the future.

RLacey · 08-15-2006, 12:23 PM

I like people that can make me smile (surprisingly hard), that can put up with me making jokes about them to their face (something I have the annoying habit of doing around friends) and that can hold up a conversation. They have to have a fair degree of intelligence, too, though they're by no means required to have knowledge of the same things as me. That and they have to be prepared to deal with my regular bouts of self-loathing.

I'm far more interested in quirks of personality than physical appearance. In fact, the whole tits'n'ass thing holds no real appeal for me, and I find myself wondering on a fairly regular basis why they seem so important to others.

Of course, having never actually had a partner everything I write here is entirely irrelevant...

bulldog · 08-15-2006, 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by RLacey

Of course, having never actually had a partner everything I write here is entirely irrelevant...

If I may be so forward .......you mean never had a partner, meaning a serious girlfriend. What was your longest relationship (more then friends relationship) so far?

RLacey · 08-15-2006, 12:37 PM

Now I remember why I don't post in these threads

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It's really not important.

Jeysie · 08-15-2006, 12:52 PM

Lacey always sells himself too short... you'll get used to it eventually, Bulldog. ;P

Anyhoo. Physically, I tend to notice a guy's face. Hair, eyes (and glasses, mmm), and smile mainly. An open, friendly face, a pleasant/sweet/sincere smile, and hair that isn't stuffed under a baseball cap are all rather attractive. Voice-wise, a bit of an accent is usually a good thing.

I don't tend to notice a guy's body much, weirdly, unless there's something obviously notable about it (he's really tall/short/skinny/fat/muscular/whatever). Though I do notice (and appreciate) if a guy is a classy dresser.

Personality-wise I like guys who are smart/geeky enough not to have their eyes glaze over when I talk (

), are honest/sincere and good-hearted, and have a prominent sense of humor. I also have a weakness for guys who are creative, especially singers/musicians.

Peace & Luv, Liz

Squinky · 08-15-2006, 12:58 PM

I find myself attracted to people who are kind to me, especially those who seem to go out of their way to do so.* I honestly don't care about looks; in fact, I often notice that I find people more physically attractive after I get to know and like them.

*And no, those creepy Mexican guys who whistle at me on my way to work don't count.

bulldog · 08-15-2006, 01:05 PM

[QUOTE=Jeysie]Lacey always sells himself too short... you'll get used to it eventually, Bulldog. ;P

Lacey probly does sell him self short. "Most" nice guys do..... I'm not sure why though.

Anyway, it sounds like you and I have close to the same thoughts as to what we look for in a mate. I'm not to keen on a singer/ musicians, I had a bad experience with a singer/ musician (that in the thread worst date ever.) I like a man (my husband fits most of the qualities above) that can take me as me.... you know quirky sense of humor and all.

*Melanie68* · 08-15-2006, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Squinky

*And no, those creepy Mexican guys who whistle at me on my way to work don't count.

You mean all those guys who line every single corner in San Rafael waiting for work?

The one time I was there doing the focus group thing for The Great Cow Race, I remember being blown away by the sheer number of them.

RLacey · 08-15-2006, 01:17 PM

I'm not a nice person. I'm just an extremely flawed one. There's a difference between under-selling yourself to appear modest and under-selling yourself because it's what you believe.

With all this talk on musicians: anyone that hates music probably doesn't want to spend any time near me. Loving it isn't a necessity, but I tend to do a fair amount of music in terms of choirs and what-have-you, and someone that couldn't tolerate that wouldn't like me for very long.

Then again, that's a fairly moot point, because most of the people I meet I meet at choirs and other musical events

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08-15-2006, 10:22 AM	#1
bulldog Second Degree Black Belt Join Date: May 2006 Location: Georgia Posts: 6,086	The opposite sex? What qualities do you look for in a partner? What is the first thing that you notice about the opposite sex, their qualities that attracted you in the first place? Is it their eyes, brains, smile…. and so on…… I look at their habits first, mannerisms, the way they carry themselves. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Lord make my words as sweet as honey, for tomorrow I may have to eat them. “Pretty badass and tough and won't take crap from anyone” -Squinky

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Hammerite kamikaze hummingbirds Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Over there. Posts: 7,946	to be honest, i dont usually look at ass or boobs first, but usually the face is more important, however personality/sense of humour is a must. good looks + nastiness = sod off Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ The bin is a place for household rubbish, not beloved pets! Last edited by Hammerite; 08-15-2006 at 10:40 AM.

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bulldog Second Degree Black Belt Join Date: May 2006 Location: Georgia Posts: 6,086	I thought all guys look at tits and ass first thing...... I don’t think that I have ever heard of a guy that looks at the face first..... well I guess you learn something new everyday. Your right though personality is the key.... bad personality = someone that will waste your time. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Lord make my words as sweet as honey, for tomorrow I may have to eat them. “Pretty badass and tough and won't take crap from anyone” -Squinky

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Jelena Lazy Bee Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Sweden Posts: 7,518	It's been about 20 years since I met Christer and I've never looked at another guy since. But if I remember correctly I liked his looks and his sense of humour. He's a real clumsy person but that never bothered me. Then I know I loved his scent. I still do. Awwww I miss him. He's working another week on Gotland. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Temporary guest in your life

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Wormsie Doctor Watson Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: The Catacombs Posts: 4,736	I'm gay, so the opposite sex doesn't really interest me that much. COme to think of it, I don't have many female friends - must be because I'm studying technology. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Don't worry, I'm a doctor.

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Lee in Limbo It's Hard To Be Humble Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Hamilton, Ontario, Canada Posts: 2,557	Facial expression, body language, a modicum of pride in their appearance, obvious signs of an engaging personality, and an ability to enjoy themselves in my company. I prefer gals with generous curves, but smiles are essential. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Lee Edward McImoyle, Author Smashwords eBooks

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stepurhan Freeware Co-ordinator Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: South East England. Posts: 7,309	I think it's the "opposite" part that's throwing some people off. Tricky to think of a more genarilsed way of saying it that won't sound clumsy though. I look for a wedding ring that matches my own on a ladies finger. (Oh and a whole bunch of other features that would restrict that to my wife) I'd have to say brain overall. I like a woman who can challenge me intellectually. It keeps life interesting if you can have proper discussions. It also helps that we have different specialised areas of knowledge so there always things each of us can show off about. When I consider lowly physicality nice legs and a good arse are always nice. Also I've always had a thing for women in glasses for some reason. . Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ No Nonsense Nonsonnets #43 Cold Topic A thread most controversial, that’s what I want to start Full of impassioned arguments, of posting from the heart And for this stimulation all will be thankful to me On come on everybody it won’t work if you agree Last edited by stepurhan; 08-15-2006 at 12:06 PM.

08-15-2006, 12:19 PM	#12
bulldog Second Degree Black Belt Join Date: May 2006 Location: Georgia Posts: 6,086	after some thought I am going to change the name to ideal partner. The topic is still what attracts you to "the person you like" meaning if your straight, gay, bi or what ever your cup of tea maybe tell us what you like about the person your with or hope to be with in the future. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Lord make my words as sweet as honey, for tomorrow I may have to eat them. “Pretty badass and tough and won't take crap from anyone” -Squinky

08-15-2006, 12:23 PM	#13
RLacey The Thread™ will die. Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 22,542	I like people that can make me smile (surprisingly hard), that can put up with me making jokes about them to their face (something I have the annoying habit of doing around friends) and that can hold up a conversation. They have to have a fair degree of intelligence, too, though they're by no means required to have knowledge of the same things as me. That and they have to be prepared to deal with my regular bouts of self-loathing. I'm far more interested in quirks of personality than physical appearance. In fact, the whole tits'n'ass thing holds no real appeal for me, and I find myself wondering on a fairly regular basis why they seem so important to others. Of course, having never actually had a partner everything I write here is entirely irrelevant... Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ RLacey \| Killer of the Thread™ I do not change to be perfect. Perfect changes to be me.

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RLacey The Thread™ will die. Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 22,542	Now I remember why I don't post in these threads . It's really not important. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ RLacey \| Killer of the Thread™ I do not change to be perfect. Perfect changes to be me.

08-15-2006, 12:52 PM	#16
Jeysie Diva of Death Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Western Massachusetts Posts: 1,402	Lacey always sells himself too short... you'll get used to it eventually, Bulldog. ;P Anyhoo. Physically, I tend to notice a guy's face. Hair, eyes (and glasses, mmm), and smile mainly. An open, friendly face, a pleasant/sweet/sincere smile, and hair that isn't stuffed under a baseball cap are all rather attractive. Voice-wise, a bit of an accent is usually a good thing. I don't tend to notice a guy's body much, weirdly, unless there's something obviously notable about it (he's really tall/short/skinny/fat/muscular/whatever). Though I do notice (and appreciate) if a guy is a classy dresser. Personality-wise I like guys who are smart/geeky enough not to have their eyes glaze over when I talk ( ), are honest/sincere and good-hearted, and have a prominent sense of humor. I also have a weakness for guys who are creative, especially singers/musicians. Peace & Luv, Liz Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Adventures in Roleplaying (Nov. 19): "Maybe it's still in the Elemental Plane of Candy." "Is the Elemental Plane of Candy anything like Willy Wonka's factory?" "If it is, would that mean Oompa Loompas are Candy Elementals?" "Actually, I'm thinking more like the Candyland board game. But, I like this idea better." "I like the idea of Oompa Loompa Elementals."

08-15-2006, 12:58 PM	#17
Squinky Unreliable Narrator Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Le Canada Posts: 9,873	I find myself attracted to people who are kind to me, especially those who seem to go out of their way to do so.* I honestly don't care about looks; in fact, I often notice that I find people more physically attractive after I get to know and like them. *And no, those creepy Mexican guys who whistle at me on my way to work don't count. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Squinky is always right, but only for certain values of "always" and "right".

08-15-2006, 01:05 PM	#18
bulldog Second Degree Black Belt Join Date: May 2006 Location: Georgia Posts: 6,086	[QUOTE=Jeysie]Lacey always sells himself too short... you'll get used to it eventually, Bulldog. ;P Lacey probly does sell him self short. "Most" nice guys do..... I'm not sure why though. Anyway, it sounds like you and I have close to the same thoughts as to what we look for in a mate. I'm not to keen on a singer/ musicians, I had a bad experience with a singer/ musician (that in the thread worst date ever.) I like a man (my husband fits most of the qualities above) that can take me as me.... you know quirky sense of humor and all. Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ Lord make my words as sweet as honey, for tomorrow I may have to eat them. “Pretty badass and tough and won't take crap from anyone” -Squinky

08-15-2006, 01:17 PM	#20
RLacey The Thread™ will die. Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 22,542	I'm not a nice person. I'm just an extremely flawed one. There's a difference between under-selling yourself to appear modest and under-selling yourself because it's what you believe. With all this talk on musicians: anyone that hates music probably doesn't want to spend any time near me. Loving it isn't a necessity, but I tend to do a fair amount of music in terms of choirs and what-have-you, and someone that couldn't tolerate that wouldn't like me for very long. Then again, that's a fairly moot point, because most of the people I meet I meet at choirs and other musical events . Share Share this post on Twitter __________________ RLacey \| Killer of the Thread™ I do not change to be perfect. Perfect changes to be me.

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