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Look, I'm really, really sorry I brought all this up, and I'm not interested in talking about it any more, so please go focus on someone else now. I've already dealt with all this whole "Despite the fact that all your research shows that the reality is that you can't do X because you need Y and there's no current feasible way to get Y, all you have to do is wish hard enough and wave your magic wand and Y will suddenly appear" stuff from plenty of other people. All it does is make me feel more like crap because it's blatantly obvious that there's tons of easy solutions that everyone else can find without any effort... meanwhile I look and research and do the math and I just don't see how it's supposed to add up. Just points out further that if I was just like everyone else I wouldn't have any problems, since it would all work and make sense to me. So, I'm just going to drop it, thanks.
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03-09-2006, 10:22 AM | #62 |
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Sorry to break up the Jeysie-bashing, but I have a question.
What's the point of regret anyway? I don't get it. Say you make a mistake. It's past. Regret just brings it back to the present, prolonging its impact. Regret won't change anything; It'll just make you suffer. Since when is suffering the sort of thing a sane person should seek out? You could argue that such self-inflicted punishment teaches you not to do it again in the future, but in that case there's nothing at all to regret, because without the problem this improvement would not have happened! So what, exactly, is the point, and why should I have any respect at all for people who choose to regret past decisions? |
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"It takes courage to push yourself to places that you have never been before... to test your limits... to break through barriers. And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anais Nin Have you ever even considered that we got all over your ass over this because.....we love you? If we didn't give a shit do you even think we'd pay attention to all your self flagellating rants about the state of your life? After all, why DID you post about all your problems? For sympathy? Well, sister, you got your sympathy, and more. A lot more. And yet I find it so ironic that, despite all of us believing in you, the most important person in your life doesn't and has given up. And that person is you. Quote:
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03-09-2006, 10:58 AM | #66 |
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I love torturing you.
Oh, and you're welcome.
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I don't believe in regret. As long as I'm alive, I must be doing something right!
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03-09-2006, 10:59 AM | #68 |
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Oooh! THAT is definitely quotable.
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03-09-2006, 11:37 AM | #71 | |
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Regret is what prevents you from making the same mistake twice. You learn from it. But you shouldn't let it dominate your thoughts in the present. Regret is something to notice, learn from, and then stash away in a dark corner of your brain. I regret a lot of small things in my life. Getting extremely drunk and breaking some teeth driving on the way home with my bike, for example. It sucks, and it's something I carry with me for the rest of my life (I got some false teeth now). I regret it, and learned from it. I still get extremely drunk every now and then, but I learned to drive really, really slowly on the way home in order to prevent accidents like that from ever happening again. |
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03-09-2006, 11:39 AM | #72 | |
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03-09-2006, 11:49 AM | #73 | ||
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Trep: I've thought about getting a degree online, but like I said, I know several business owners and recruiters and everything, and none of them take online stuff seriously. They want traditional certs from well-known brick-and-mortar places.
Besides, if all I wanted to do was learn online, there are a bajillion places I could do that for free. In fact, I have worked on trying to teach myself some computer stuff. Everything I know about computers is self-taught; I have literally never once in my life taken a computer class that didn't teach me anything I hadn't already learned myself. (shrug) And online learning would only work for my computer aspirations anyway. At least 50% (probably more) of science learning is hands-on lab work and experiments, which you can't replicate online. Quote:
If I owned a bike or moped it would be literally ruined or gone within a few days of my bringing it home. Quote:
It's like I'm sitting here staring at a huge wall, and everyone else is telling me, oh, well, if I only thought the same way they do and I tried hard enough, I could find that secret passage in the wall that is currently invisible to me. So I get frustrated and feel like crap, because people tell me these solutions, I try them out and they DON'T WORK and then everyone else tells me it's because I'm not trying hard enough. It's exactly like how I was in gym class as a kid, and I'd be playing baseball or something, and no matter how hard I followed all the instructions and held my arms and legs the right way and stared at the ball so hard I'd need a microscope to see any closer, I'd still miss hitting it. And then the teacher would give me an F because I "wasn't trying hard enough and if I just put in more effort I'd be good" even though I was trying as hard as I f***ing could and it still wasn't working. And of course, everyone else in the class can hit the ball just fine, so I'm the only one who sucks at the blatantly obvious. THAT'S how this sort of stuff makes me feel, and that's why I'm really, really sorry I brought it up and I want to drop it.
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03-09-2006, 12:04 PM | #74 | |
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Edit: Oh, and you might have noticed I have no "advice" for you. As you can see, I have learned an important lesson from my own thread, and for that reason I no longer regret it. |
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03-09-2006, 12:08 PM | #75 | |
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03-09-2006, 12:36 PM | #76 | |
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To say that you can't go because your apartment is too small to store a bike is just ridiculous. Move closer and get some damn financial aid. To be honest, if you have a chance to fix something you regret doing and refuse to do it (or make excuses to avoid it) then your posting about it just comes across as trolling for pity. Stop thinking about where the damn ball is and just take a swing at it! |
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03-09-2006, 12:49 PM | #77 | |
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There are financial aid options available to needy students. Does your mother have high income or asset? If she doesn't, I can see you qualifying for various grants (not loans) available like these:
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Even if you fail to obtain loans, getting student loans is not as dangerous as you seem to think. I financed my MBA study with student loans. Once again, I didn't have to use a single dollar of my own money to get my MBA. My loan balance at the time of graduation was over $25,000 but thanks to extended repayment option (20 years) and low interest rates, my monthly payment wasn't even $250 a month. I was able to refinance my student loan at even lower rate and now my monthly payment is around $170. You won't be able to explore these options unless you are admitted to a school and you start working with the financial aid office at the school. I went to Rutgers and I've got to tell you that the people at the financial aid office at Rutgers were some of the nicest people that I have ever run into anywhere. They sat down with me and patiently went through all the options available to me until we finally found a way for me to get an education even though my family at the time was as much in financial trouble as you seem to be in now. You will not know what type of assistance and opportunities are available to you unless you put yourself in a position where it is possible for other people and the system can help you. Apply to a school. Get accepted and try to see if you can actually pay for it and get an education. Even if there's no way, what have you lost? The application fee, some time, and some leg work. That's it, right? My family came to the States from Korea when I was 17. We had $2,000 to our name at the time and a half of that was gone within days of our arrival because we had to pay the security deposit for the apartment we were renting. My parents did not speak any English at the time. We obviously had no car. I even saw my mother crying at night (she was trying to hide it but we were living in a small apartment so she really couldn't) because she had no clue how we were going to survive. We somehow managed to survive though. Both my parents somehow managed to land jobs and worked themselves to death. My mother had two jobs at one point and worked 14 hours a day and one of the jobs was a graveyard shift (from midnight to 8 AM) at a plastic bottling company. I still to this date can figure out how she was able to stuck with doing that for two years. I do see that you have a lot of difficulties but I have to say, no matter what, you are in a better position than my mother was. She's not particularly smart or extraordinarily talented. What she had had though is the will to survive, the desire to flourish, and the willingness to work as hard as she can to succeed. Hope this doesn't offend you but you might want to sit down and calmly take a look at yourself and where you are and figure out why your life seem to be stuck where it is. It might just very well be that it's yourself and not the obstacles you seem to find everywhere that's holding you back. |
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03-09-2006, 12:52 PM | #78 |
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Hmmm, I seem to have caught something before it got edited.
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Don't worry, I'll never tell. I love secrets. They're so sexy.
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