01-03-2006, 04:41 AM | #21 | |
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At first, I found her weird (not unattractive, just... weird), but the more I knew her, the more I felt both physically and, well, mentally, attracted to her.
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01-03-2006, 04:53 AM | #22 |
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Some really neat replies there everyone. Theres not much I can add to all that.
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Love is going out for dinner with your wife on your 7th wedding anniversary and still enjoying it as much as when she was just your girlfriend.
I did that yesterday and it works for me.
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01-04-2006, 04:06 PM | #24 |
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I hope it's about companionship.
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01-05-2006, 06:10 AM | #25 |
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Eating chocolate is how I define love....
*runs away from pan-wielding SJH*
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01-05-2006, 06:16 AM | #26 |
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Eating chocolate is how I define my average day.
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01-06-2006, 12:25 PM | #28 |
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Love is a social construct, and can be learned. Compatibility and commitment are what hold a relationship, not necessarily love. Arranged marriages tend to have a higher success rate than "love" marriages, because they are more based on the above two than on an arbitrary conception of love. Usually, in such a case, the love grows after the couple gets married, rather than before.
Gee, I wish I could have an arranged marriage. It'd sure save me the trouble of finding a significant other, that's for sure. Also, I find that love is also unlikely to last if it is pursued for selfish interests, i.e. so that I can be happy, avoid loneliness, etc. |
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In the brief experience I've had, spanning four and a half relationships, two and a half which are still lasting at this time, and the one mental relationship of love that was ripped from me without any warning at some point early in its development (thus is not listed in the count of the others), I would claim the reverse. I made my first two relationships out of selflessness and rational appreciation. They made both me and my respective boyfriends very miserable. The others I've done out of egoism - and it was the selflessness of the respective other person that caused the fissure in the other one I mentioned outside the lot. Especially my relationship with BoyToy is very, very selfish. Though, given that, my opinion on what is commonly perceived on "egoism" is that it's not... because making enemies never benefits the self. But, eh... t'is another topic
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01-06-2006, 05:20 PM | #32 |
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Oh. Okay. I get what you're saying now. I think.
How do you define selflessness, anyway? To me, selflessness doesn't mean "being a doormat", and putting the happiness of your partner ahead of your own. In fact, I think that's worse than selfishness! Rather, I see selflessness more as being supportive of one another while doing something good for the world (e.g. raising children). It all goes back to compatibility, really; if one person is concerned with self-gratification and the other isn't, then the relationship fails, whereas if both are selfless and have a common sense of purpose, then the relationship is more likely to last. I hope that makes an inkling of sense. As for whether the goal of happiness works... if you're still together 10/20/50 years from now, let me know and I'll promptly retract my statements. |
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